<p>What is some advice and/or past-experiences when having a relationship last from High School to college?</p>
<p>From my experience it usually doesn't last. Although I know of this couple who have had a high school - college relationship for a few years now...and the college isn't even close to where the high school is. So you never know.</p>
<p>Well, I'm currently in a long distance relationship and will be going to school about an hour away from my significant other, but we plan on spending weekends together, et cetera... (let me clarify, he's a year ahead of me)</p>
<p>It's difficult, yes. It takes a lot of maturity and respect of the other person's priorities. We were actually "apart" for about a month because he became overwhelmed with the fact that he just didn't have time for so many things and he didn't want to find himself ignoring me-- that was resolved, which I'm quite glad for, but if you aren't prepared for the workload combined with maintaining a healthy relationship, it could be risky. That said, if the relationship is serious, it is completely worth it and after a little while when you learn how to prioritize and do the long distance thing, it isn't that hard at all. Sure, I miss my boyfriend terribly, but it has yet to cross my mind that maybe "this is too hard" or that I'm expending any sort of incredible efforts... just make sure it's serious. We've been together two years and still strong, so it's definitely possible.</p>
<p>My advice? AIM chats, same cell phone companies so minutes/text messages are free (text messages are wonderful), web cams, pictures... be completely prepared to give eachother elbow room settling into college (that doesn't mean flirting/sleeping around, I mean settling into the workload and new schedule)... other than that, it's not that different from any other relationship. It takes effort to keep it healthy no matter the distance and some people simply aren't prepared or don't have the responsibility for that.</p>
<p>Parent here.</p>
<p>Not all long-distance relationships are doomed.</p>
<p>I went to college six hours away from the college attended by my HS boyfriend. It worked out OK. We've been married now for almost 30 years.</p>
<p>Hmm I think things were a little different 30 years ago :) Long-distance generally only works when neither people party or overly socialize with people of the opposite sex (or the same, w/e you want) OR if both people are hideous :p. But if you're the party type then even if you say that you only want to have fun with friends it's gonna go downhill eventually.</p>
<p>What was different 30 years ago was that we didn't have cell phones or IM or web cams or text messaging or email or even (gasp) answering machines. And conventional long distance telephoning was expensive! Airplane tix were expensive. There weren't miles/rewards for frequent travellers.</p>
<p>If you weren't in the same city as someone else, it was hard -- or expensive -- to keep in contact.</p>
<p>Other than the technology however, nothing has changed about being in love and relationships. </p>
<p>Well ... other than the summer of love and things like that <blush> ....</blush></p>
<p>ucbhi, I think that's an unfair and really untrue generalization... speaking from personal experience at least.</p>
<p>I can understand why you'd have that reaction, but I think you'd agree with me if you honestly thought it out. Keep in mind that I'm talking about big parties with lots of drunk people.</p>
<p>Considering that inhibition-free interaction with the opposite sex is one of the most exciting and seductive aspects of party culture, I don't think that it's unfair at all. If you're in a long distance relationship and you party a lot, then you're gonna meet a lot of other guys that are gonna be interested in you. The interaction will make you feel good about yourself and you'll want more of it, and things end up happening.</p>
<p>I don't want to go on and on, so that's the short of it :)</p>
<p>But those kind of "interactions" involving people in varying states of intoxication can generally be written off as meaningless and irrelevant.</p>
<p>But that doesn't mean it's not cheating.</p>
<p>I think that you may say, "oh it won't mean anything, I just physically interacted" but what if feelings start to come in to play? And by that I mean what if you start to care less about your boyfriend/girlfriend because you have found this new lifestyle? Or even worse, if you start connecting with someone?</p>
<p>Most people who go to parties with the intent of hooking up are NOT interested in getting to know the other person/anything serious. And that's why I think that for many people, the best kind of long distnace relationship is an open one--total honesty, but freedom to do those things that don't mean anything significant. Emotionally, there is less invested in one of these types of hook-ups than in, say, a lunch with friends.</p>
<p>actually long distance relationships dont have higher chances of breakups than regular close distance ones. there's just more trust and anxiety involved. </p>
<p>there's a ton of threads on long-distance relationships on CC.. comes up every year.. you could do a search =p</p>
<p>People grow a lot in college. You may grow together; you may grow apart. Lots of HS relationships break up by Thanksgiving of freshman year, and lots last. You really can't tell either way; you'll just have to get there and see how you're feeling.</p>
<p>P.S. I should note that I'm a senior in college, and most of my HS friends who were in relationships when they went to college have since broken up with those significant others. However, one pair of friends from HS, dating since HS, is getting married this month. So you never know.</p>
<p>I have been in a long-distance relationship with my HS girlfriend of 2 years all through my freshman year of college. Yeah, it can be very hard sometimes, and we've almost split on several occasions, but we've always worked stuff out. The two people must be independent and able to deal without having your significant other around all the time. And get ready to feel badly everytime you see a happy couple walking around campus. Overall, I think it was worth it, but I wouldn't have done it for any other girl (this girl is AWESOME).</p>
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P.S. I should note that I'm a senior in college, and most of my HS friends who were in relationships when they went to college have since broken up with those significant others. However, one pair of friends from HS, dating since HS, is getting married this month. So you never know.
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<p>Why did this post sound almost exactly like my post? The last three words are found in my post word for word! I suspect plagarism...:p</p>
<p>It has been my experience that long distance relationships (even relationships where you only get to see each other on the weekend) might work short term, but anything long term (over 4-6 months) they are doomed.</p>