<p>So im going to UCSB and my boyfriend is off to another university :( Now most people would say maybe its time but i love him so much and think he is the one. Now many people would say you're young but i know what my heart is telling me...Now we are only literally an hour away from each other on a train. It costs $15 to go visit him and i really want it to work because he is the one.....Do you think odds are in my favor..please anyone i just need someone to reassure me!!! I'm scared of losing him</p>
<p>Oh for sure, when I read the title i was assuming states away , an hour is hardly long distance and even so as long as your heart is in it that should be the only thing that matters no one should tell you otherwise besides what you feel is right. Just make sure he’s on the same page that’s all advise ,other than that don’t let any “odds” dictate the likelyhood of your relationships suvival especially if you think he’s the one . Good luck :)</p>
<p>Wow, it costs only $15 to visit your boyfriend?
****, it costs me $40 there and $40 back to visit my girlfriend.
Chill out. If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be. Seriously, this hour away thing isn’t that bad. Skype, text, y’know. Don’t be scared. Have trust in him that it’s going to work out, or else your relationship never will.</p>
<p>Lol God i need that!! Well hes ready for it and so am I but i guess im freaking out over nothing! Its because he started school already so i’m like ahhh he left 
but you both are right! I need to relax and trust him, and if we just get to busy and can’t find time then i guess no effort was put in. But hey if you’re paying that much to see your girlfriend then that shows that she’s something special :)</p>
<p>Maybe it works out, maybe it doesn’t. For sure of the millions of kids starting college this fall, some of those in long-distance relationships will see it thru and end up together. My sense, though, is that most don’t make it. So that’s my answer to your odds question.</p>
<p>There are a number of reasons. College is a time of growth and exploration. Its a lot more fun to be able to take part with your SO who is there with you, instead of a voice on a phone that you see occasionally. Sure you can visit each other on some weekends but there are some issues with that. For starters, you aren’t doing much in the way of studying and homework; you need to compress what many couples can do over 2-3 weeks into 2 days. Depending on your major, this may not be such a good idea. Second is the roomate situation; hopefully the roomates on both ends of the relationship are accomodating to sexiling. And there is what you miss out on; when you go away on weekends or are preoccupied with a visiting SO you don’t have as much time for making or hanging out with friends at your own college. </p>
<p>I think another part the answer is revealed in the words you use. “the one” is the language of romance novels and young girls. Let me put it to you this way: suppose worst comes to worst, he breaks up with you. Are you then bound to go thru life a spinster, your only chance at love gone? Of course not! You’ll find someone else; better in some ways, worse in others. So this singular “the one” talk both puts your BF on an pedestal and at another level isn’t really believable. Which is my last reason for why so many long-distance relationships falter. People realize there is not just one person in the world for them, and they don’t want to spend 4 years passing by the opportunities right there in front of them. And a larger range of people at a college with 20,000 students than they had in a HS of a few hundred; supposing people dating in HS had not met until their college years, do you think all of them would still pick the same person out of the larger pool?</p>
<p>Many LD relationships only make it to Thanksgiving, a sizeable number of the rest end over winter break. Which is not to say those people wouldn’t have been happy with the original person, but life circumstances led to a change. They’ll just end up happy with a different person.</p>
<p>^ This is a good answer 
I know so many LDR couples that broke up during the winter quarter, nearly every single one.</p>
<p>I transferred to UCSB with a boyfriend, and I broke up with him at the end of the school year. We were together for over 4 years. Even though we spent time together nearly every day, I realized he’s not “the one.” Actually, my philosophy about relationships has changed in my only one year here at UCSB. I’m just a lot more easy going about meeting other people now.</p>
<p>My former house mate maintained a LDR for two years, but I can’t attest for her happiness or lack thereof.</p>
<p>Edit: People here will try to court you, whether or not you have a boyfriend.</p>