Ight so I’m starting as a freshman at the University of South Florida and I’m currently in a long distance relationship w my bf who is starting at UC Berkeley. I couldn’t be anymore proud of him for getting into such a prestigious university, but so far he’s been gone for like 5 days and it’s been pretty tough. I’ve been dating him for more than a year (he’s my first bf lol) and how do I cope w this stuff like idk what I’m doin. It doesn’t help that he’s across the country and he’s 3 hours ahead and I completely understand that he has his own life and stuff but I just don’t know how to deal w this. Also, idk if I should be making a big deal out of this since he is my first bf but it would be pretty cool if we could make it work for a while.
Long distance is tough. Both of you will be meeting a lot of new people, and it may not work out for now. I always think that if people were meant to be together that they will stay in touch and find their way back later on – but trying to keep something going that far apart during college is hard. I’d say you need to be philosophical about it if you drift apart. Try to part on good terms if it comes to that, you will be glad later.
Long distance is really hard, especially when you both have your own lives. I did it for a year but we made it work by seeing each other as much as possible and knowing the end was just after this one year. Whatever happens, you have to do what’s best for you- too many people sacrifice their own futures to follow their partner a college that isn’t right for them. If you guys are meant to be, you’ll survive the distance. But if it doesn’t work out, remember that there are other experiences out there and you’re both growing into different people.
Long distance all the way across the country will in fact be a challenge. Especially since you two will be starting school and like others have said, meeting new people and just overall being in a new environment. What you really have to do is weigh out whether this relationship is worth it or not, you have to know that this will require a lot of work in order for you two to stay together and stay strong. That means you may have to sacrifice nights out, take time away from your day to communicate, and realistically not be able to indulge yourself completely in your freshman year and college experience. I am not trying to be a negative Nancy, but it will be hard. And hearing that he is your first boyfriend, I am sure it would be extremely difficult for you to let go because maybe you feel really attached! Just letting you know that you should be ready for anything. My biggest piece of advice to you is to not let it affect your school work and your future, because once that starts happening then something needs to change! I wish you luck! But just be ready for anything, freshman year of college is crazy! My partner also went to UC Berkeley and I went to Cal Poly SLO, only a 4 hour distance drive, we tried distance the first semester and ended up breaking up. It was really tough on me and I went through a short depression, but once I finally let go I started to really indulge myself into my college experience. Not only was I meeting more people but I was actually happy and not so worrisome all the time about someone so far away from me. Ultimately, it will be up to both of you and how willing you are to make it work! -Jake
Across the country? Not a good idea at all.
Note: LBad has repeatedly expressed his disdain for any type of long-distance relationship in the past. In fact, any opinion you get on the subject should be taken with a grain of salt, because they aren’t you or your partner, and their relationship is not your relationship.
That said: Skype, Skype, Skype!
College is a wonderful time to meet new people and try new things.
It is much harder when you have a boy/girlfriend.
Many people try to hold on but find by Thanksgiving that the relationship isn’t working long distance…it is called the Turkey Drop.
As a parent I say don’t let this HS boyfriend impede your social life at college…so if you can skype conveniently fine, but if you are missing dinner with your friends because you are skyping, then no good. If you don’t go out with boys individually, fine, but if you aren’t going to parties/gatherings because your BF doesn’t want you to…no good.