<p>Has anyone had a long distance relationship, where say for example, they went to a community college and the other person went to a uc? How did things work out and what did you guys do to make it work out, if it even does work out in the first place?</p>
<p>Note: I'm asking this, because I fear my relationship will crumble with the person i'm with, and they'll be attracted to or drawn towards those at a uc. </p>
<p>Any advice, help, or comments is welcomed</p>
<p>We broke up. There is no hope for you.</p>
<p>haha jk. That's just my experience, mainly because she was a childish *****. Her sister however went to UCSD while her bf went to Cal, and they are still together after 4 years and meeting at the end of high school. It takes a lot of patience, trust, understanding, and more trust. Good luck.</p>
<p>I know a couple where the girl went to a CC in California and the guy went to college in Massachusetts. They're still happily together right now.</p>
<p>I've also heard of couples who broke up before going to UC (with lame excuses, when obviously one person just wanted to have fun and not have any strings attached... in one couple, I think the person came back and wanted to work things out after her "fun." but it was too late).</p>
<p>I think it works for couples who have already been together for a while, are in love, and just trust each other.</p>
<p>Now that I think about it, I know a girl at a UC dating a guy at a CC. They're still together (though the girl I knew initially thought she'd meet someone at her school) today. It's surprising to me because he was always very jealous with her going out with guys.</p>
<p>Do you have reason to doubt the person you're with? Do you trust her or him? If you want to stay with the person, just make sure you don't suffocate her or him. This will just slowly drive her/him away. You can tell her/him you're concerned but just make sure she/he understands that you trust her/him. I don't know where your relationship stands, so make sure you tell him/her where you think it stands. ie. "I have no intention of even looking at another person while we're apart" etc.</p>
<p>Best of wishes!</p>
<p>It's hard to say. I have a oversea relationship. She is in China, and I am in here. At first few monthes, we constantly talked through MSN twice a week and sent cell phone messages frequently. After one year of seperation, we decreased "MSN" from twice a week to once a week and no more messaging. Now, it's being two years. We still do the MSN but once of each other weeks. The reason of that reduction of communication is -----------!!!!! we don't have any common topics that can share about..!!!!! every time we talked about the same thing last time we did.....Just like your mom nags you every day the same thing....
I still love her, but time is powerful thing. I start questioning myself whether we will be together after another two years....</p>
<p>your situation is much better than I because at least you can touch her or bluh bluh bluh. If you love her as well as she love you, you will be fine ( I meant TRUE LOVE). However, you need to put a lot of effert on it, so you need to measure it and make your final decision.</p>
<p>btw, just like kevinc121 said. Trust is the key for you to keep the relationship. When you put thin tread here, you are starting doubt her. My recommendation for you is ......leave her......free yourself.....find a new love.....</p>
<p>I guess that depends on what type of person you both are...</p>
<p>I know couples that didn't even want to try a long distance relationship, couples that tried it and failed misserably, and couples who are still togeather.</p>
<p>what I have noticed is that, if the couple thought that they might break up, they indeed ended up breaking up... the couples that thought there was no way they were going to break up, are the couples that are still togeather...</p>
<p>personally I'd at least try it if I cared about the girl.</p>
<p>To be honest, you'll have to step back and decide if it's really worth it, because it will be hard. Make sure the other person really wants to try it too. It's really easy to get wrapped up in thinking that you're so in love that it'll work, but that's rarely the case.</p>
<p>don't do it.</p>
<p>Never works for me...
My first serious relationship - i ended up coming to the US when I was in high school. We broke up 4 months later after i came. i was suicidal...</p>
<p>My second serious relationship - he got into cal and i went to CCC. We broke up well...we were still together for another year but he cheated on me with some girls and we fought a lot. it was a painful relationship</p>
<p>My third and current serious relationship - im going to UC soon and he will be staying here cuz he works at home. Gosh im scared. I will not look for anyone else. he's the one. he's the one. he's the one!!!</p>
<p>UCBorUCLA, as you said, it never works for you......your third relationship will be in danger....Lol.</p>
<p>I'm in this situation! My boyfriend goes to UCD, and I'm at a community college. However, hopefully, UCD will give me an acceptance letter so I can stay close to my boyfriend! Otherwise, I'll have to go down to UCSD which is so far. :(</p>
<p>By the way, I'm not choosing colleges based on my boyfriend, my sister also goes to UCD, so it would be so much more convenient for my parents, Davis' biology program is pretty good, etc.</p>
<p>Hongda, I also have my gf in China.
Just come U.S for about 4 months, and we chat through phone or msn for an hour three a week..
sometime she complains that I am not beside her, but our relationship is still pretty solid so far.
We miss and love each other so much, but the fact that we can't meet each other in person is pretty heartbreaking...</p>
<p>Is your gf working or in university?</p>
<p>she is in university and has a part-time job.
Just wait. After 2 years, you will understand what I said.</p>
<p>mine will graduate very soon, and she has a mother who loves to arrange the "mate-meeting" for her daughters. so I believe it will take me less than a year to understand what you said.</p>
<p>I'm at a CC and my boyfriend goes to the Naval Academy. We've been doing the long distance thing for almost two years. It can work but you really need a lot of trust and you must give each other a lot of reassurance. :]</p>
<p>not for me....</p>
<p>I also agree trust and reassurance are very important in the long distance relationship.
And, make sure both people in the relationship are willing and serious enough to endure such separation.</p>
<p>I had a girlfriend on my senior year of high school and we hit it off very good, but she was too high maintenance for me at the time and I couldn't afford it, so we stopped seeing each other for two years. In those two years, we still kept in touch through her website and email.
Now that I've saved up some money and can get some loans to pay for her, I'm just hoping she will take me back. My true love, UCLA :)</p>
<p>hahahahahhahahah</p>
<p>alansda, Hahah, nice. Good luck with UCLA! :)</p>