<p>I was in a similar situation to yours. He got into UCSD, UCB, and UCLA. He decided to go to UCSD (it's his dream school, location wise). We didn't talk about it for awhile, until July. He told me that it would never work out and he broke up with me. It sucked, it was unfair and I really thought we should of at least gave it a shot.</p>
<p>Then I wound up in another spot with a another guy, goes to a CCC for one semester and will attend UCSD in the winter. He got really attached to me and I was nervous about it. He was going off to UCSD and I realized that we just weren't close enough to give it a shot, I didn't really care for him enough for me to put a strain on myself with a long distance relationship.</p>
<p>Both of those experiences happened with 6 months of each other and I realized that it just matters on the relationship. It also matters on the people within the relationship. I can't handle long distance. I want to see my bf at least every other day and talk to him at least once a day. First boyfriend didn't want that and second couldn't do that (he called me plenty...).</p>
<p>If you really care about her, enough to worry about this, then I say you give it a shot. So what if you guys break up. The worst thing that will happen is that you guys break up and find other people. But at least you can say, when it's all over and done, that you gave it your best shot.</p>
<p>I've been eyeing this thread, and now I'm compelled to share my story, the moral of which is: it depends on the relationship and the people.</p>
<p>I met my now wife about a month after my first deployment. I was stationed in 29 Palms, and she lived in San Diego with her parents. That's about a 3 hour drive, each way. My best friend was stationed in San Diego, which is why I met Jenny. Anyway, after our first date we saw eachother every Friday, Saturday, and Sunday--unless I was working--and talked to eachother every night. When it came up that I was deploying again five months after I got back, we couldn't imagine breaking up prior to, during, or following my deployment, so we got engaged. It goes without saying that communication was spotty in Iraq, but 7 months later I was back in the states and we had only another year of living 3 hours apart until the end of my enlistment.</p>
<p>Everything worked out great, and we've been married for a few years now.</p>
<p>"Then I wound up in another spot with a another guy, goes to a CCC for one semester and will attend UCSD in the winter. He got really attached to me and I was nervous about it. He was going off to UCSD and I realized that we just weren't close enough to give it a shot, I didn't really care for him enough for me to put a strain on myself with a long distance relationship."</p>
<p>I should write a book about long distance relationships...I'm in my third. Maybe third time is the charm? Oh wait, I forgot about the Canadian guy, so I guess this is my fourth. Yikes! Anyway, I've been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years, and we've always lived 6000 miles from each other - he's in Italy. We met there through a mutual friend (another CA girl who lives in Tuscany) and just sort of clicked. We have a lot in common, but on the other hand, we are very different. If anything, it won't be distance that ends it, it will be ideology... We mostly talk by text message - about 4-10 every day - and by phone (skype) once a week, but there is also email. He doesn't have internet access at home, and just got a laptop, so it's been hard mostly because of the time difference. We have somehow managed to see each other once every 3-4 months, but I'm sure that will change after the fall semester starts and I've quit my job. Is it worth it? Well, yes, for the most part. It is tough, too, since we can't join each other for events or even just for going to the park or for ice cream. But we are together in thought. I am 95% sure that I'll move to Italy when I'm done with my BA, if I don't go for a masters or can't convince him to move here or to Spain. I know that if I were not working toward my personal goal of a BA, he would insist I move to Italy now. </p>
<p>I think that the reasons we can continue this way are that we are both very independent people, neither of us are jealous (mostly, I've had my moments and of course, sometimes his Italian Male gene kicks in), we are both busy in our lives, and we have a very keen trust between us. Also, he's a huge Cal fan, so I guess I would be going to Cal "for my boyfriend." :)</p>
<p>i go to a city college in northern california and my ex boyfriend goes to ucsd way down south. to be honest, it's really hard to maintain a long distance relationship (or even a REGULAR relationship) while in college. it does bring you down on your college experience and it most likely will not work out unless you're certain that you want to marry this person -- which is highly unlikely. single life/friendship/CASUAL relationship is the way to go.</p>
<p>I did it for about half a year. I wouldn't call it long-distance, exactly - I was at De Anza while he was at Berkeley, so we were only about an hour apart. Still, it's tough. The person at the UC WILL end up having an almost entirely new life, and s/he might have a hard time fitting you into that. I don't know. It didn't work out for me, but I won't advise you against it, because things happen differently for everyone. </p>
<p>My advice: let them have some space while they're adjusting to life away from home. Visit them at school so you know a bit about what their life is like, and meet their friends, if you can - it was always nice when he said something like, "Oh, hey, so-and-so asked when you were coming up again." And have an awesome time at your school, too! Good luck! It's hard, but not impossible.</p>
<p>I'm in this situation right now. It's really awkward. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years now, but I was considering ending our relationship. I'm afraid that, as carwatha stated, I'll end up having a completely different life and that it'll be difficult to make time for him. I care a lot about him, but I don't want our relationship to turn ugly. I suggested we take a break for a bit and stay friends while I learn to adjust, but he gets so upset and clingy when I bring it up. :[</p>
<p>I hate suggesting this to people I don't know, but if you think it's going to happen eventually, it's probably best to break it off now - between pain now and pain later, the former is always kinder. That way, too, you'll probably have a better chance of staying friends. I barely talk to my ex anymore, and when I ran into him during Cal Day yesterday, it was incredibly awkward. Just not a fun situation.</p>
<p>I'm currently in one right now. I'm at SDSU and shes at Cal. Things are working out wonderful in the relationship. But, SDSU really isn't my atmosphere and I'm going to go back to a CCC and hopefully transfer to Cal or another UC. </p>
<p>Having these long distance relationships is all about understanding each other and trust. The distance certainly makes the relationship stronger too.</p>
<p>Your fear speaks volumes. You need to sit down with your SO and discuss what the two of you want out of the relationship and if it is realistic to stay together. It's going to be a tough road ahead, and if you two can't honestly count on each other, don't waste time trying to hold on.</p>
<p>My ex went to UCI and I was going to community college and living at home about an hour away from him (not even such a long distance). It worked for the first year, we would see one another at least five times a week and have sleepovers all the time and such, which was time and gas consuming... I broke up with him a month and a half ago, mostly because I wanted to experience college life at its fullest. We were ALWAYS together, I lost touch with a lot of friends and I really depended on him far more than I should have... So the fact that I'm going to transfer and live away from my parents this fall probably had a lot to do with my wanting to break up with him! </p>
<p>I do miss him a LOT, but I am honestly enjoying dating and reconnecting with all of my old friends much more. I think people our age are too young to be tied down with a serious relationship, and now is the time to have fun... And I know next year will bring on so many more adventures that I would much rather experience single. </p>
<p>As for him, he was first very heartbroken. But now, a month and a half later, I can tell by the crazy/drunken/girls-all-over-him pictures on his facebook that he's having the time of his life... Which kind of bothers me, but I know I was really holding him back from having the college experience he should have. So I guess it worked out best for both of us.</p>
<p>So yeah, I think now is the time to learn about ourselves and live without any restraints. I rambled and I have no idea if this has helped, but good luck!</p>
<p>Let's say that there is a very small chance that your relationship lasts and makes it till marriage. You then have a 55% chance of eventually ending in divorce. You also have to consider that out of the 45% who don't get divorced, half of them are probably not in a happy marriage but staying together out of convenience or for a variety of other reasons. My point, hope for the best but plan for the worst. Don't put your goals and dreams on hold for anyone. </p>
<p>I would like to share a very touching story. On the airplane flight back from Operation Iraqi Freedom, I sat next to a fellow Marine who wouldn't stop talking about seeing his wife and newborn son. He was so excited and eager to see them. Well I later found out that he got an STD from his cheating wife, and they got divorced. The man just spent nine months in the desert fighting a war and his wife was cheating on him. Oh and my girlfriend cheated on me while I was out there too. So yea......all women are sluts. No offense to the women out there.</p>