<p>So which one won confidence or looks?</p>
<p>There’s also something that psychology has proved time and again, and it’s that people are more naturally inclined to think that beautiful people also have other redeeming qualities. Pretty people are considered, on the whole, more intelligent, more caring, more confident, etc., than the “average” population. So with hookups in mind, going for the most attractive person is not based on just looks alone, but what the looks insinuate to our subconscious. The hookup/whatever is more justifiable to you, in your mind, because they have all of those better qualities, so you’re less likely to oppose it happening.</p>
<p>tobaccoNchocolat - I suppose it happened by accident, that and applying engineering principles to human interaction tends to cut the crap.</p>
<p>Beast - my quote is applicable to physical prowess as well as how wealthy one lets on to be, only in different ways. The physical attributes appeal to the more primal instincts, whereas the frontal-lobed i.e. ‘gold-digging’ instincts gravitate one toward those who let on to be wealthy.</p>
<p>I used Tom Leykis’ ATM receipt trick, only I would use the printer to print an extra digit or two on to there. The trick is just to scan, splice, print. When she asks for a number, write it on the back; it has yet to fail.</p>
<p>OP: thanks captain obvious :)</p>
<p>If looks were the most important thing, I wouldn’t be in a relationship. I’m not “ugly” but I’m definitely not a Victoria’s Secret model. Just average. And yet I still managed to get a very handsome boyfriend…so I guess my personality and charm compensate for whatever I lack physically.</p>
<p>ITT: some male posters have discovered that it’s relatively easy to get laid, and now deem themselves gods amongst men.</p>
<p>Looks like the OP is just bitter about being rejected for being an uggo. Obviously looks matter, everyone’s got a basic level of tolerance for physical attractiveness. The point of the “What are you looking for threads” is to identify other traits people find attractive. Stop whining.</p>
<p>@ Tobacco</p>
<p>Your tread title is “Looks are MOST important in college” which makes me think that looks dominate 100% of the time. Looks are important, but I think there should be a good mix of looks and personality. It’s like you pantry. (If you eat healthy). You have a mix of vegetables, protein, dairy products, and the snacks!!! We all love candy and icecream, but in the LONG RUN the ALL-ROUND diet is the best.</p>
<p>With your celebrity example: THEN WHY ARE THERE CELEBRITY BREAKUPS AND DIVORCES IF THEY LOOK LIKE GODS/GODDESSES??? Because of their personality conflicts.</p>
<p>If you’re only talking about the 4 yr time span of college then maybe looks are most important. “Hump and Dump.” LOL. But I’m talking about the long run.</p>
<p>What everyone is saying is that the blend of features of looks and personality is most important.</p>
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<p>That is a conflict of definition. Most does not mean 100%. Go back to elementary school.</p>
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<p>… Which is exactly what I said. You’re reading comprehension is suffering too. Go back to elementary school. </p>
<p>So again, IN YOUR OWN WORDS, you agree with me, but you just didn’t like what I said (or ignored it), because you find what I said distasteful. Small mind.</p>
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<p>Yes. That, or, I find it funny that for a “confidential” discussion, people create nonsense discussions purely for the fact of validating social conventions probably because they can’t bring themselves to agree with them in real life.</p>
<p>I’ve already explained why this is true: People in college aren’t planning to have children with their mates and are therefore less concerned about selecting mates with traits that are conducive to raising families. </p>
<p>Sex appeal trumps everything in most colleges. The only colleges that might break this rule are elite schools whose student bodies are more intellectual and less boorish than those of less prestigious schools.</p>
<p>I think having confidence and high self- esteem makes you even more attractive. I thought most people had a different idea of what’s attractive…?</p>
<p>Personality is also another important factor because you can be attractive and have a “blah” personality AND you would like to be compatible with the person you are dating…or you’ll end up in divorce/break up soon.</p>
<p>It’s easier for guys to get away with being “less attractive”…but for girls that’s not the case. Guys use their visual abilities more…so he wouldn’t bother to think twice about going out with you if you’re ugly in most cases. Or sometimes guys might go for girls that are “easier”…but i doubt they’d take them seriously.</p>
<p>However, how many guys have the confidence to ask out a girl they’d find extremely attractive…?</p>