<p>Teenagers and not so teenagers are always taking about girls/guys and love. Do you do well in college when your mind is focus in the opposite sex? Breaking up affect your study? Does it do the same with your social life?</p>
<p>It's all about self-discipline. Does TV affect your study? Video games? Computer? Music? Booze? Visiting home? Of course there are plenty of distractions and ways to spend your time other than studying. It's up to the student what time is designated or set aside for studying or not.</p>
<p>Why do people always ask questions like this??? i don't get it.</p>
<p>As long as you balance things well, you should be fine. If someone is in a relationship in college, obviously their bf/gf is in college too. Studying will have to happen evenually.</p>
<p>people always ask questions like this because with some people the ups and downs of a relationship and the emotions that go with them are not so easily kept apart from school</p>
<p>dating for these types of people (me included) is not something I would recommend during important semesters and what not.</p>
<p>It depends on your personality. I know I can bludge my way through a year of high school and end up with an A on most of my subjects. Some people just can't, mostly because they're easily distracted. I know a few people who just get so distracted by their life outside of school that they don't even care about their marks anymore.</p>
<p>I agree with you JebusTheLord. My D is the same way. Sometimes I feel that she is cold blooded, nothing distract her from study. She recently broke up with her boyfriend of two and a half years for a single fight after showing everybody that there were deeply in love two weeks ago. We are all sadly depressed for that, and I can't imagine how is the poor guy that loves her very much, but she seems fine, very concentrated in her classes and extracurriculars (and she still says that she love him). I don't understand this, I believe that love is so important to us that affects everything we do.</p>
<p>I actually tended to do better in classes when I had a relationship going (I'm notorious for having many short-term relationships though). I would get through with all the things I had to do in order to spend time with whatever girl of the moment. Rather than wasting time and procrastinating I got my stuff done, so I know that "love" doesn't have to be a distraction and can be a motivating force.</p>
<p>I would be happy to have a D like that, Cressmom. It means that she has priorities and is very responsible.</p>
<p>"I actually tended to do better in classes when I had a relationship going (I'm notorious for having many short-term relationships though). I would get through with all the things I had to do in order to spend time with whatever girl of the moment. Rather than wasting time and procrastinating I got my stuff done, so I know that "love" doesn't have to be a distraction and can be a motivating force."</p>
<p>I agree. I am most distracted when NOT in a relationship.</p>
<p>I'm just the ultimate procrastinator. :D</p>
<p>The time when your grades go down is right before a relationship when you have a crush on someone. Then once you've got into the relationship, male testestrone kicks in and gets you all pumped and motivated to work hard.</p>
<p>at least thats how it was like with me</p>
<p>A breakup of a long-term relationship towards the end of my junior year absolutely killed my ability to focus and get things done, I was essentially in deep depression for the better part of 2 months. I got some help from Psych services, took a few incompletes, finished over the summer, and came back the next year and kicked some butt.</p>
<p>...and had plenty of fun senior year, I might add.</p>
<p>It can be a big effect on your system or your routine, but nothing's permanent.</p>
<p>If you're emotionally fragile, have low self esteem, or need a member of the opposite sex to fill some 'void' that really only you can fill yourself, than no, don't date.</p>
<p>But you might want to work on your problem rather than trying to avoid its potential consequences.</p>
<p>I had a wonderful 2 and a half year relationship that ended last month and it didnt effect my performance in the classroom at all while it was going on and after it ended. Now the circumstance that caused the end of my relationship may have made it easier to get over (moved from east coast to west coast, way to young for a LDR) but mostly, I was able to brush it off becuase this wasn't the first time I had gone through this. </p>
<p>The first time I got out of a LTR was absoloute hell- I basically couldn't function. This was the first time I had ever gone through something like this and had no idea how to react to it (Now i got that horrible song "first cut is the deepest" stuck in my head, lol) I took the "OMG this is the end of the ****ing world" approach and in retrospect, it was retarded. However, alot of that was my fault since I was so unwilling to move on. </p>
<p>Now I went through this in High School, but I have met many people who react this way in college. You really have to condition yourself not to think like this. Being in a relationship can be the most awesome thing in the world and can actually help motivate you to do better in school, but you have to know that as great as things can be, they can turn bad really quick and if/when things get bad, they'll always get better. </p>
<p>and like peterparker said- if you're looking for that guy/girl just to fill a void, you've got bigger problems to worry about.</p>
<p>I agree with the people who say that you'll be more distracted if you don't have a social life/ relationship, unless you're some antisocial nerd who enjoys being alone all the time. If you just study all the time you'll get bored with your life pretty quickly, and when you're bored, you'll tend to daydream about doing more exciting things instead of focusing on your work. As long as you realize that love relationships are secondary, rather than putting them first, then you won't be slacking off.</p>
<p>I think the main thing to do when it comes to college relationships (and wanna-be relationships) is to avoid getting too attached. Some people get too attached and get distracted from their work. It's ok to date, but don't get crazy with the dating scene. Girls IMO, seem to get around a lot more in college, and the last thing you need to be worrying about is a girl of yours cheating on you or w/e.</p>
<p>I am concerned about this. My boyfriend is currently in college and I am a senior in high school looking for a college. I am looking for a small college with a strong liberal arts program. The college he is at has this and a campus that I love. However, I don't know if attending the same college as my boyfriend is a good idea. Let me add we are totally in love at this point in our lives, but I do realize if things don't work out it could get dicey. If he was not there it would be hands down one of my top choices. We have a great relationship and are planning a future together. I feel that my friends and family may feel I am just following him to be with him. I must admit I miss him terribly and love the fact that we could be together. I am confused. Help a girl out.</p>
<p>Personally, I think that if you love him so much AND you love the college itself so much, you should attend that college. Going to a different college would only hurt your relationship and if you didn't like the other college as much as this one you would be hurting yourself. If things don't work out with your boyfriend, at least you'll be at a college you love.</p>
<p>i heard about a girl who was in a same situation as u and went to same college as her bf. bf broke up with her soon as she entered college. might want to think about that...</p>
<p>but if you love the school and its your top choice, (and you have a bf there) isn't that suppose to make that better...? urhm. i would go.</p>