<p>So my situation is that first semester last year, i didn't really have any friends. There were days i didn't go to meals because i go to a really crowded state school and i didn't want to deal with the shame of eating by myself. As time went on, i kind of became friends with my roommate, her best friend, and two girls down the hall. The four of them were and still are really really close knit. They talk, hang out, text, and go out together 24/7. They are ALWAYS together. I'm the type of person who enjoys her alone time so i wasn't always with them but i also wasn't because we weren't the same type of people. I just didn't mesh with them like they did with each other. </p>
<p>Over the summer, they hung out a lot and spent a lot of time together but i didn't talk to any of them except one. They are very mean girls the movie types so i wasn't that offended i didn't get invited to hang out with them because my summer was a blast but today when we got back to school, all of them but that one have ignored me. I saw them all today and said hey when moving in, but when i texted them a couple times about dinner, they all ignored me. Basically i have bsolutely no friends right now.</p>
<p>My new roommate is nice but she has tons of friends like TONS and while we might be friendly with each other in the room and stuff, i don't think i'll be able to spend much time with her hanging out. Its only the end of the first day but i already feel really lonely because i go to a big party school and everyone is going out tonight except me. I don't mind because i drink once in a while but i really don't like to every weekend. I do mind though because i'll just be sitting in my room by myself. </p>
<p>So what i'm trying to say is how can i make new friends? I really want to make some friends because i was really really depressed last year and i am already reaching that point again. I don't think college life is for me if its all about drinking but i feel like if i find some friends like me i will have a much better time. As a sophomore, how can i go about doing this since most people aren't looking to make new friends?</p>
<p>What makes you think people aren’t looking for new friends during sophomore year? I made many more friends during sophomore year than I did during freshman year. I didn’t go to any parties until I turned 21 during junior year, and even then they were more so just gatherings of small groups of friends than what most people seem to consider a party.</p>
<p>Hey, I’m in a similar boat as you. Luckily I’m in a house of 6 girls, two of which I’m quickly getting to know & have a kitchen so I can easily do some meals on my own if needed… but ultimately I don’t have any friends whom I could call up and ask to just hang out. It’s depressing.</p>
<p>I’m really trying to remedy this - my main focus has been to join more clubs this year. Last year I joined 3-4, but only one or two ever meet. So, this year I’m joining more (and of ones that I’m actually interested in)!</p>
<p>I’m also going to push myself to go to campus events – my school does movies, comedieans, ect. Even if I don’t feel like it or go by myself I’m going to really make the effort to at least get out… and if asked to go out with friends I will accept, even if it’s not my thing I plan to give it a try (like you, I don’t like partying or drink much).</p>
<p>Just try to open up and give everything a go! And know that you aren’t alone :)</p>
<p>Definitely join a club where you share a common interest! That will help. Also, try to get to know your roommate a bit better before completely dismissing her. Maybe she has a lot of friends but also enjoys alone time/one on one time! Good luck!</p>
<p>You sound a little like me. I’m a sophomore and still in the process of making friends. I have a lot of acquaintances but not a lot of good friends who I can really call my “group”. I had my little breakdown about feeling lonely and worried about not making friends, but you either have to keep your head up and realize that most people, no matter what the age, are welcome to making new friends, or accept some other fate, like…you enjoy you’re alone time and maybe should aim for making one friend this year and go from there. I don’t know. I’m trying to start with small goals and work from there, or not focus on making friends at all, but rather focus on being happy and healthy, since the stress of making more and more friends is stressing me out. </p>
<p>I’m sure even at you’re party school, you can find others who aren’t partying. Do you live in a dorm? You should go down to the common area and see if anyone is chilling there. Or maybe invite some randoms who look like they’re about to chill to play something like Apples to Apples since it makes you talk and is pretty fun. </p>
<p>I go to parties, but sometimes with people I don’t really enjoy being with, so it’s not worth it all the time. </p>
<p>All in all, I’d say when you’re feeling lonely, do something else that you enjoy, or go run or walk outside, call a friend from home, anything else than focus on the negative. That’s what I do and so far it helps.</p>
<p>i think that the reason i don’t have friends at school is mostly because the friends that i had just completely like shunned me once we left school. besides in classes, i also didn’t really make an effort to make other friends either, though. i have tons of friends at home so its not like i’m the type of person who is a loner but it just hasn’t been working out here.</p>