<p>Let me start by saying that my freshman year went quite well, both academically and socially. I quickly became friends with most of my floor mates and developed a few close friendships. I was friends with more girls than guys, which was a new experience for me since I came from an all male high school. I was happy and, considering the fact that I am rather quiet and have some social anxiety, rather proud of myself. </p>
<p>As time wore on through the second semester of freshman year, two groups of friends developed on my floor - one of which was "cooler" and somewhat obnoxious, the other of which was more reserved. As someone who strongly values close individual friendships, I resisted leaning towards either group and instead tried my best to maintain my existing friendships with members of both sides. I was successful for awhile, until it came time to decide on sophomore living arrangements. Not surprisingly, the two groups diverged even more at this point, and I ended up deciding to live with the more tame group. </p>
<p>Now, a week into sophomore year, I am suddenly feeling trapped in a very boring social situation. I am still good friends with the people I live with, but I am realizing more every day that they are seriously dull and boring people. I can't even explain how much I miss the early part of freshman year, when it was so easy to get a group of people together to do things - sports, drinking, dinner, whatever. Now, I feel like I have nowhere to turn for excitement. I am not angry or frustrated with my friends per se, I just feel the need to branch out and find people more like me - people who are always looking for fun and excitement, whether it is pickup sports, partying, weekend trips, etc. I can't stay stuck in this situation where my friends are too lazy and unadventurous to do anything without constant nagging from me - It's been a week and I am already tired of trying so hard to have fun. I am not a huge partier, but I am at the point where I couldn't find a group to go out with if I wanted to. Again, I am not trying to complain about my friends, I'm just not satisfied with the college experience I am getting through them.</p>
<p>So, my question is this: what are some ways I can get to know some people who are more like me. Obviously I know getting more involved on campus is the basic answer (I am currently looking into clubs, etc. and picking a few to check out), but I am hoping to find some more specific advice and/or personal stories. The reason I think my situation is uniquely difficult is that I am very adventurous yet not very outgoing - I am willing to do a huge variety of activities, but I am quiet and self-conscious around people who do not know me well, making it difficult and stressful to meet new people to do those activities with.</p>
<p>One thing I am considering is Greek life. I am far from a typical "frat boy," but I am thinking that a service or honors fraternity, or maybe a traditional frat with a more mellow reputation might be a good fir for me.</p>
<p>I have spoke with my parents and some friends from home about my situation, so it's not like I am just using the internet in place of actually talking about my problems. My reason for posting this is to hopefully find someone who made it through a similar situation with a happy ending.</p>