So I think I need some advice.
I am a sophomore in High School (10th grade).
I have been learning classical guitar for almost 2 years.
This is LONG, so read just #6, or the summary at the bottom.
Lately I’ve been really stressed out.
- In my life, people have always said I have no talent- when I was 5,6,7 years old, my mom always said "If you had any musical talent, you would've shown it by now." I was always insecure concerning music. I never listened to music at all until I was 10 or 11. I also struggled with depression during this time, since I felt I had no purpose in life.
- Sooo almost 2 years ago, I managed to convince my parents to get me classical guitar lessons in the city, 90 miles away. We live in a small farm town with no art scene or music programs at all. After a rocky start, I suddenly felt like I had a purpose in life, through learning this instrument. Music invaded every corner of my life. I checked out CDs, videos, and books about guitar music. I bought recordings. At the high point of my life I practiced 6 hours a day, waking up at 6 a.m.
Now after 2 years my teacher gave me stuff like Grade 8 Level stuff. (Suite Del Recuerdo)
- I admired some players so much, I would dream about being like them. I had fantasies, about buying a quality instrument, being a music major, and playing fabulously well. And yes, winning competitions and stuff was part of the fantasy. (I am aware now this was pretty delusional, haha.)
- However, during this whole time, I was plagued with doubt and stress. My parents had always told me that 'classical music was for privileged, fancy wealthy people.' They said that 'this was not their dream for me.' So I worried that I started too old, I did not have enough privilege, or a nice instrument. There was always an undercurrent of frustration and stress to everything I did. I would often have nervous breakdowns in the night. But I thought, if I practice enough, I could accomplish anything. At this time I was certain I was going to be a musician.
- Lately I really dug in, researched stuff on the internet and read the bio's of a bunch of players. And my discovery was that, of course, the top-level players started young, had all kinds of privilege, programs, master classes, master teachers, etc. In fact most players who I ever heard about had these things. In fact I developed the impression that most people who play an instrument at all started young and just had more opportunities.
Of course this was no surprise, but I just fully realized the sheer number of people who play an instrument, the amount of time and money their parents spend on them, all the pre-college programs and classes and stuff.
- I figured- I have none of those things, only lessons. Even the best I could do- maybe get into a conservatory for undergrad or something- would it be worth it? Because honestly there are so many musicians, my life doesn't fit in with the mold. I would never be able to make much of an impact on the music world, never really accomplish anything, never play anything uniquely or do anything original. Those things would be done by the people who had the resources, teachers, and programs.
I honestly think music is not a meritocracy that I thought it was. Sure, practice counts, but the people with the most supportive environments, parents, and opportunities will always shine brightest. And that is frustrating.
- Anyway I really have no idea, I like my lessons and teacher a lot. However, I don't really think I am going to be a musician anymore. (I don't want to be a teacher anyways.) My time would probably be better spent on something I could be good at, really good at- because I always wanted to really make an impact, and say something to the world. I have other interests like art, I could spend the day studying art- maybe take art lessons- because art is something I would have no problem studying in college.
Most of my day is consumed by practicing, but I am thinking maybe it would be best if I quit- completely.
Summary: I am thinking about quitting classical guitar for good, since it consumes so much of my day, and I don’t think I have the opportunities to become very good. Privileged people who started young and had support, teachers, etc. do those things, so in comparison I’ll be mediocre at best. The time spent practicing might be better spent on something else.