<p>So my father gets remarried and suddenly there's this strange woman in our home that is supposed to be my stepmother. My brother's fine, I'm fine, really. It's no big deal. Then a week later this woman decides to trample on my self-esteem.</p>
<p>Like last night she went in and out of my room attacking my test scores (2230) and saying they would have been higher (or in other words, I would have been smarter) if I had had a different birth mother. She attacks my weight. My GPA. My clothes (only because my real mother made them for me and I like them). She shows me pictures of herself when she was younger, saying how much prettier she was than I am, how she could have married a rich man but instead chose to take care of us ungrateful brats. Saying how if she ever had her own kids they would be superior to my brother and me. My brother's a self-conscious 12-year old who's in AP calculus, and now he's ashamed of his brown hair and small frame because my "mother" tells him how if my father had married her before he would have had blonde hair and muscular stature. Then she basically calls him stupid when he can't solve complex derivatives. The kid's 12. He shouldn't even know what derivatives are.</p>
<p>Eeh, I needed to vent. Just let me let it out for a bit. Is anyone going through these problems with a stepparent or does this woman just have nothing better to do in her free time?</p>
<p>That woman has a major self-esteem problem if she needs to deride her own stepchildren. Personally, I'd put her hand in warm water when she's sleeping and then tell dad to get a divorce because who wants to marry a woman who can't hold her own bladder.</p>
<p>What a...well...b _ _ _ _ !!!! I have no stepparents, my parents are still married and living. </p>
<p>I'd say...damn....are you going to be going off to college soon? I'm glad for you, if you are, but I feel bad for your brother... :( I had no idea what calculus was at age 12. </p>
<p>And no offense, but her comment about blond hair and muscular stature makes me either think "white supremacist" or "neo-Nazi b****". :mad:</p>
<p>Ugh. I don't know. Self-esteem issues shouldn't be bothering me at this point, but whatever. She does sound like a Neo-Nazi, but why marry into the family if she knew how ugly her stepkids would have been? I'm not her kid. She's not even blonde. Or pretty. </p>
<p>Or maybe this is the psychological angst talking.</p>
<p>Talk to your dad about it. I'm sure a large factor in him remarrying was for his children. If he finds out she is treating you like dirt, I'm sure he won't stand for it.</p>
<p>ummmm, this woman is pyschologically damaging and she needs to get out of you and your brother's lives... i dunno, maybe it's just me, but i would go on a hunger strike until something was done about her, just as a physical demonstration of the magnitude of her emotional damage. or some other kind of strike, don't boycott doing homework or showering though hahah.</p>
<p>does she say these things in front of your dad? this could qualify as verbal abuse, yea child abuse comes in many different forms, you know what, other people like a therapist are a lot more qualified than CC-ers to talk to about these issues. :-/</p>
<p>just laugh at her. and say she's ugly. and that she smells and that she should take more showers. and tell her that her arms look a bit flabby here and there. and telll her that you can see all her wrinkles and that they make her look like a weird old granny. and tell her that your dad regrets marrying her because she's got a flabby bum. and tell her that all the people in the neighbourhood has been talking about her and talking about how they can see her cellulite on her legs whenever she walks and how they've been talking about how she smells like poop.</p>
<p>..even if they are all false. Then she'll get all hyper and be all like, "waht? no im perfect! perfect! i'mso pretty! what are you talking about!?"
and then she'll have a psychological break down and her dad can take her to a mental hospital.</p>
<p>Oh and spread rumors about her to your friends. So your friends will tell their mums and dads. And then their mums and dads will accidently gossip about this false rumor. And it'll eventually come back to her. And hopefully she'll cry.</p>
<p>Thanks for the concern, everyone. I'm sorry for whining, I just need to vent. But truth be told, after a while I got used to the constant degradation. But this isn't about me. As you may have guessed, my brother is a math brainiac - he's loved it ever since he started algebra in 2nd grade. Now he hates it. He used to like getting problems wrong so he can see where he makes his mistakes, but now when he gets a bad answer he imagines this woman screaming at him and he starts crying. Never mind that kids his age get the multiplication table wrong, he gets angry at himself over tangents of second derivatives... or something, I don't know, I hate math.</p>
<p>Did I tell you he bleached his hair? Now he's obsessing over weight and physique. It's unhealthy, I'm definitely going to talk to my father about it when he gets back. A hyperactive kid should not be avoiding food because of image problems, it's almost as though I can see a future eating disorder. Horrible, wretched woman.</p>
<p>Do you know mirror<em>of</em>dirt personally? If you do, then fine, perhaps you do have a reason to believe what you typed. And even if you and mirror<em>of</em>dirt go to the same school, there are times when schoolmates have personal family lives that nobody except for their closest friends knows about.</p>
<p>If you don't, then let me tell you that there are people out there with stories that "sounds like the perfect hollywood that wouldn't win an oscar". I know people who have overcome rape, incestuous rape + pregnancy and abuse, and all these may sound Hollywood movies, but gee, aren't most stories taken from inspiration in real life? (Fantasy and science fiction might be somewhat exempted from this.)</p>
<p>As for gullibility... :D I know I'm gullible. Why else would my friends cackle in glee when April's Fools rolls around? :D</p>
<p><em>shrug</em> I trust people. I believe what they tell me.</p>
<p>Ugh, do you want to know why it sounds so rehearsed? Because I took a long time to write it. Because I outlined my post before writing. Because people doubt posts if they're misspelled or phrased awkwardly (ironic, doing the opposite produces the same result). It's rehearsed because I planned what to write. But they're not lies.</p>
<p>Believe me or not, I don't care. But if you don't, can you at least leave it alone so I can talk to people who do? I need this. You don't.</p>
<p>mirror<em>of</em>dirt you need to talk to your father about this woman. It sounds like one of your parents must have gotten involved in your brother's education in math (usually parents have some say in bumping their kids up into higher subjects), so it seems as if your dad has your best interests at heart. Ask him to reconsider his marriage to this lunatic.</p>
<p>If you are telling the truth (which I am inclined to believe you are but you never know), I hope your father realizes that she is detrimental to you and your brother and that he decides to get a divorce.</p>
<p>Before it's too late and she destroys your brother... That is not acceptable! If your father is worth his salt, he'll listen to you and confront her about how she is treating his children. </p>
<p>Look, I'm being very serious when I says this, the next time she spews her venom, throw something at her face. Like food, pesticide, plates. Anything. </p>
<p>How dare she come into another family's life and try to destroy everything? A divorce is bad enough but this is incredible. I hope you talk with your father, and I hope your stepmother isn't some evil hag who will deny everything and blame everything on the "troubled child". </p>
<p>No offense to your father, but what kind of man would marry a woman without making sure his children and his bride-to-be are compatible with each other? This is why institution of marriage is in trouble, because people sacrifice wisdom for blind love.</p>
<p>What about your birth mother? Have you spoken with her about this? The best thing might be to move in with your mother. I think your brother might need to live in a different place. This is how kids get messed up. Horrible parents ruin their children's self esteem and sense of security, and they end up growing up to be miserable failures. </p>
<p>Can you drive? I'd kidnap him for a "date." Pick him up from school, go to the movies and take him to his favorite fast food place afterwards and let him order whatever he wants. Then, just chit-chat. If he steers the conversation towards your mother, great. If not, just ask about school, about girls, anything. Make him feel really important.</p>
<p>With my little brother, sometimes I pretend I'm having the same problems that he's having.</p>
<p>Realistic Example:
"Oh my word, school is really hard right now, isn't it?"
"Yeah."
"Mom's going to hit the roof when she sees that I've got a B in math."
"Yeah."
"I hate it when she does that."
"Yeah."
"But you know what? I'm not going to let it get to me."
"Yeah."
"Cuz I know that I worked hard for that B. And you know what?"
"Yeah."
"Sometimes, all you can do is your best. Sometimes that isn't enough, but it's all you can do. So you've got to be content."
"Yeah."</p>
<p>That way, he doesn't have to admit he's just as much an emotional basketcase as I am, but I still get to lecture him. </p>
<p>Sorry that your life is so hard right now....</p>
<p>i also recommend that you talk to your father. and your school counselors, in case they can do anything to help your father understand the magnitude of this problem. but really, that's a terrible thing that's happening to your little brother - make sure he understands that your stepmother doesnt matter whatsoever.</p>
<p>If you don't, then let me tell you that there are people out there with stories that "sounds like the perfect hollywood that wouldn't win an oscar".