Just as an FYI, it was my mother. And I still find it amusing.
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I got that it was probably your mother.
I was talking about the Oscar de La Renta green dress woman! I really may need help for a 2022 MOG dress so maybe we should start a new thread that will help those of us that have weddings coming up in 2022?
Anyone coming in this thread as a CC member will get good advice and generally respect your style and opinions! The difference with the green dress was well, she was not a CC member just a picture so people were more critical.
Post some info about what you’re looking for and you will get help! We have talked MOG dresses for years and years with much good advice!
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How do you know this? Maybe there is CC member quietly cringing every time someone makes a comment about that dress.
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Welp, that’s possible I suppose. Also if that’s the case NO one on CC should talk or show pics of anyone in the world cause they might hang out in CC.
I’m not sure why this one incident is getting so much attention as critical discussion is a CC standard, like it or not.
Still encourage someone to post a MOG dress dilemma so we can do what the thread intended.
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Folks, let’s move on from the green dress please. Keep the discussion flowing. Not everyone wants to discuss it.
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Well I can’t ask for advise yet because CO_kid has a tbd wedding date and location (ideally July/Aug 2022 … but methinks Boston venues already booked). But I can ask a general question about conventions. Once the arrangements are finalized, it’s the MOB that picks a dress (or at ;east length, color) first, then MOG…. true?
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I think these days anything goes as far as who picks first. I would consult with the future B&G and run my choices by them (and the other mother if you know her). I’d be nervous to wait for the other mom to make her final selection… these days, supply chains are so wrecked your choices might become unavailable quickly!
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I plan to ask the bride and groom when they are engaged and have a wedding date. Maybe someday. I have never met the mother or any family of prospective bride yet.
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Well…actually, the two moms in this family asked the bride if she had any preferences. We each picked our dress based on those. I’m not sure I even knew what MOG was wearing before the wedding day…and I’m not she she knew what I was wearing.
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I have never met the parents except via zoom. We were supposed to meet in person but COVID got in the way! I am mom of groom, the other mom is actually the stepmom but will essentially be in the MOB position.
I did ask the bride what length and I was relieved when she said tea length was perfect. I really did not want to wear a long gown. Luckily, I have time to find a tea length/midi type cocktail dress before the May wedding.
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I was the mother of the groom and I picked my dress first because the MOB held off on shopping. I think she waited until weeks before. My dil and her mom seemed fine that I was looking.
The bridesmaid dresses were purple, the flowers were fall oranges, the color combo was stunning. The groomsmen were in gray.
I wore navy, the mother of the bride picked a red dress. It was all good.
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At the risk of getting back to being judgmental, I would never wear red to a wedding. I mean unless as a MOG, MOB, or attendant I was asked to by the bride.
Ha ha! I still remember wearing a red dress as a guest at a college roommate’s wedding decades ago. I was called out on it but I was young and clueless! Maybe things have changed since then?
It was an interesting choice. I think my dil’s mother, who I had only met once before the wedding is not that interested in shopping so finding a dress was a chore for her. I think she waited until too late and this was the dress that fit. I don’t think she’s a big online shopper.
My dil is a lovely girl and is not interested in shopping or fashion either.
My point I guess is that finding a dress isn’t something that everyone enjoys or wants to do. The kids had a lovely wedding
I am clueless. What is the issue with wearing a red dress to a wedding?
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I vote to defer to the MOB, especially if you don’t know that family well. She may stand on ceremony and you wouldn’t want to get off on the wrong foot.
I will never be the MOB, only groom, but I can identify with the comment above that I would drag my feet on finding a dress if I were MOB. However, I hope that the MOB would be able to give parameters – length, for instance. When the first wedding was going to be in March, she preferred short dresses. Now in November, she prefers long. So that’s what I did.
Me, I personally so do not care about fashion and wedding etiquette, but I always vote for moving forward “conservatively” in terms of future family relations if you don’t know the person well.
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Reasons I have heard for not wearing red as a wedding GUEST:
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Too attention-getting/-seeking. Detracts from the couple, stands out in photos too much, etc
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In some cultures, brides wear red
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signals you’ve slept with the groom (! IKR?!)
I, too, would be conservative and defer to the MOB choosing first as another poster wrote above.
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I tried and tried to get an answer from my dil about what her mother wanted to do. It became apparent that she was going to drag her feet on finding a dress.
The issue with the red dress is that it did not coordinate with any of the colors in the wedding. There was nothing red whatsoever in any aspect. I chose a blue dress and thought it would blend in well with anything the MOB picked out.
But we were in very few pictures together. But again my point is that you try and do what you can in these situations. I was not willing to find a dress that I would be photographed in 2 weeks before the wedding. That was my choice. But these “rules” are not hard and fast. You do what you can and try and be respectful
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I was MOB, and I just asked D her preference. She said long & any color but white/ivory (not an issue for this pale mama). I showed her the dress I liked, which was cobalt blue, and she liked it … so it was a done deal. MOG wore two long gowns, a gold one for the ceremony & a black dress with flowers for the reception. D didn’t actually see the dresses in advance, but she knew that they would be appropriate (based on knowing the future MIL).
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