I’m going to be a mother of the groom next year. I certainly hope someone doesn’t post my picture just to degrade my choice of dress. It’s become a very sad world we live in.
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I didn’t say it was inappropriate; just thought it would be amusing to post the photo on this thread after reading all the worries and concerns about what mothers of grooms should wear. It’s certainly a different concept! Translating “wanting to stand out” as degrading is what’s sad.
Husband and I both think it’s the MOG based on our knowledge of the poster.
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Better not post any pix on the internet or share with anyone who might post! 
Our big kid is completely anti-social media person, but even she gave up policing what others do with photos where she appears! 
I don’t post pictures on the internet. But thanks for letting me know.
Dunno, I think it’s a cute dress and looks fine on the woman wearing it. I wouldn’t think it at all worthy of any negative attention.
I’m sad that people are making others ever more self-conscious by “judging” others here. I really think it is not constructive and will make people even more self-conscious where the focus rightly should be on the happiness of the newlyweds.
I hope if and when my kids marry, that will be my focus. At this time in my life, I honestly can’t be concerned about whether 100% of people I see think my attire is perfect—as long as the newlyweds are happy, my spouse and I am happy and most people seem to be enjoying the event, that’s a win in my book!
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I’m trying to work really hard at stopping my own judgment of other women’s appearance/presentation (even when watching the news - self-censoring comments that come to mind about anchors’ hair, voice, clothes, tone, etc.). Trying to rout out that internalized misogony!
Not saying that’s what’s going on w/the lady in the green dress picture! Just working to stop my own judgments and let other women “just be.” 
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I didn’t interpret it as anyone judging the appearance or body of the woman but rather the choice of dress for a wedding and the rather interesting placement of the nude illusion fabric.
It could have been a Vegas-themed wedding…
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We all have different taste. Some people wouldn’t be caught dead with a shoulder showing. Some people would not show a knee. I myself often look at the MOG dresses on CC and think “omg, that is so over the top” or “that looks like something my grandmother would wear” or whatever.
I figure if someone posts a dress they are thinking about they must like it. If I don’t, then I zip.
We could probably all do better at not being judgemental. But also posting a random picture of someone NOT in our CC membership (with face blocked out) maybe just adds to the discussion of “do’s and don’t” or “would you?”
No harm. Carry on with dress posting!
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@sevmom , the above was my initial reaction, too. After I read your reply, and the following one, I wondered if my eyes had deceived me. As I said in my post, I’m trying these days to think how nice it is that the wearer had such confidence and has a good figure, too.
If someone had suggested a similar dress to me, I’d be concerned that I might reveal more than I care to by moving the wrong way given the size and placement of the cut outs over what looks like very sheer (possibly see through) fabric. YMMV
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Good research! I was wondering if it had sheer straps but apparently it has a whole sheer top, slightly thicker under the cut outs. The green one is on sale!
The green one is lovely in the photo. I prefer it over the navy one, myself.
I had a funny feeling from the beginning of all this that it was an expensive dress. Honestly, it is unique and now that it has been tied to a recent Lake Tahoe wedding (probably a very nice one!), I would consider taking the personal picture down if you can. And yes, many mothers of grooms are anxious about what to wear. I know I am, unless I’m a total outlier!
Not a fan of the dress… sadly, it looks like it wrinkles easily, and if the fit is just a tiny bit off, the dress can look cheap. I’d say ODL missed the mark on that one! But if it made the wearer happy and feel like a million bucks, all the power to her. 
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The illusion dress reminds me of a figure skating outfit.
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Geez, I wish people could move on already from critiquing this one dress. Some of us here are actually future mothers of the bride or groom and could possibly use some help! But, I am certainly reluctant to ask for any more suggestions after all this drama over one dress!
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Since I have been referenced now out of context (I was making a general statement there only after specific posts about a specific woman, (which seem to have thankfully been removed). I don’t know what else to say. The intent of the thread seems to have been derailed but again, I could be off base on that.
I think a newer thread for mothers of brides and grooms with weddings coming up later this year or in 2022 looking for guidance might be in order?
I myself requested that the original post be removed since it was bothering a couple of people. It had been posted in good humor but some people never realized that. Since now this post bothers you, I will edit it out myself.
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Thank you. I really did not find your initial post to be in good humor, either the picture or the stuff about how amusing it was for mothers of grooms to have such worries about finding a dress . But, I am anxious about all this for a May wedding , so admit I may be sensitive! All the best.