That’s very nice. I wouldn’t think it would wrinkle, doesn’t seem that kind of material
1 Like
Awww, this comment made me think of my dear mama. She often grabbed and balled up garments in her hand as she shopped to see how easily the fabric wrinkled.
3 Likes
Singersmom07- I like that flowy pantsuit with the sparkly lace shell! Dressy and cute and I’d imagine very appropriate as a guest at an afternoon wedding. I think the color entirely depends on your coloring and what makes you look/feel great.
Thanks everyone. The material does not wrinkle. Those who have worn the Alex Evening dress - it is like that sparkly lace and that never wrinkled😀. It does feel good on. I was just concerned about sparkling for a 3:30 wedding.
1 Like
According to the description, you’d be shimmering, not sparkling 
. And if the wedding is starting at 3:30, it would be dark by the time you’re dining and dancing.
6 Likes
If you don’t want to be too glittery in the afternoon, wear the light jacket and only take if off when you’re ready to show some sparkle. The outfit has a lot of versatility and looks very comfortable AND dressy.
1 Like
Count me in as confused. I’m thinking about wearing a red dress this weekend — or plum— for a Covid makeup wedding. The sleeves are a bit longer on the red and this wedding will be on a tent on a beach in Rhode Island. I think the plum color is better, but the red dress is more comfortable. I have a silver wrap and pewter shoes.
Personally, I think pretty much any color other than white or close to white and maybe a funeral black is pretty much fine. The point is to be comfortable and not to try to upstage anyone by wearing a garment if questionable taste (like a plunging neckline or ultra-short, etc.) Other than that, I can’t see any problem.
At the weddings I’ve attended, people have worn a wide array of garments, from fairly casual to extremely dressy in nearly every color of the rainbow. It was all tasteful and didn’t detract from the wedding couple.
1 Like
I wore red to a January wedding. I didn’t know wearing red was a bad thing. I went to a wedding this weekend and many women were in black dresses.
I have never worn black to a wedding—red is a more popular color around here for weddings than black. Honestly the only reason I reached out to the MOB and bride about wearing a red dress is it is my sister & niece and I prefer not to inadvertently start some weird dynamic if my sister decided to be dramatic (as she sometimes is).
2 Likes
I wear black dresses to just about every wedding. Black is very classy and I’ve never heard not to wear it to weddings. Only rule I’ve ever heard is Don’t wear white.
3 Likes
Perhaps the, “no red rule,” is more of a regional thing. I just don’t see people wearing red to Southern weddings.
2 Likes
I think you may have hit on it. Expectations seem to vary by region. I bet there are also different expectations based on the cultural and/or religious backgrounds of the families. It seems there really are no hard and fast rules that apply to everyone.
1 Like
I learn a lot on these boards about regional differences. It’s one of the many reasons I enjoy coming here as I gain different perspectives and knowledge that I wouldn’t have otherwise had (gurgling cod, anyone?).
2 Likes
I had never heard the no black at weddings thing until I saw it mentioned on CC. I grew up in an Italian neighborhood in Brooklyn and I think 90% of the female guests at weddings wore black (all ages). Dressy meant black (as in little black dress).
I like wearing red, it is the color that looks best on me. I would wear red to a wedding, but not an Asian wedding. I would not wear white to a wedding of any kind.
5 Likes
The mother of the groom is not supposed to wear black because it will appear she is mourning the loss of her son. And red, for mother of the groom, is so as not to upstage the bride. I think for wedding guests any color but white is ok.
1 Like
I still hear about my sister’s former MIL wearing black at their wedding. It’s definitely a thing in some places/cultures.
Yes, there is quite a difference in wedding expectations region to region, couple to couple.
In the 1980s, we had friends getting married who had lived together a few years (less common back then). When the bride was planning her dress she said she was thinking she wanted it to be “a happy color, maybe red”. When she walked down the aisle she did indeed have a lovely red/orange wedding dress (lacy and traditional in style). I think her MIL sewed it for her, plus the matching tie for the groom. Bride and groom walked down the aisle together.
3 Likes
My mother believed that women should not wear a little black dress before age 30. That, “rule,” has clearly gone by the wayside.
Nobody but the bride in white? Wasn’t an issue for my mother at my wedding…
I’ve told the story before how she called me in tears from a phone booth outside a shopping mall in the pouring rain. Apparently the only possible dress she could find within 100 miles after days of shopping was white, and could she buy it? Fine, Mom.
In retrospect maybe I should have been tougher? We did look a lot alike at that time.
I’d asked both mothers to get a dress somewhere in a specific range of blues and sent them swatches. My MIL ended up in navy blue, which was nowhere in the range of hues, then kept bragging about how she was the one who followed instructions. Um, no.
After she passed away, I found the silk suit Mom wore at her own at home wedding - ice green. I could never tell in the black and white pictures! So maybe she always wanted to wear white to a wedding and this was her chance…
9 Likes