I’ve rarely been to weddings when a mom of wedding couple wore beige or a potato sack-type outfit. They tend to wear something they love and look great but in no way compete with wedding couple.
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Oh I was just teasing my husband about beige being the only choice. His definition of a “potato sack” differs from that of the premier designers, apparently. Lol. My dress from a decade ago was knee length, fitted, slightly off the shoulder in beautiful emerald green. Not the color in this palette, unfortunately. It will clash too much. I’m waiting for the bridesmaids to pick their colors. MOG is not going to be here, unfortunately. Health issues. The kids plan to have a local celebration with her when they go to visit shortly after the wedding.
The wedding venue is a rustic farm-like setting with lots of grassy areas. Sensible heels, lol! 
Late summer. Keeping my fingers crossed that it will be not too rainy and no heat waves like we’ve experienced this year. I will run my dress choices by you. 
Already have the shoes figured out!
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“Wear beige and keep your mouth shut,” has been a common expression in the South for a long time for MOGs. That sentiment, happily, seems to be changing somewhat. The message has also seemed to imply, “You’re not paying for anything, so you don’t have a say.” Of course, all those rules seem to be changing.
I’ve never heard a beige rule for MOBs, though, we had another thread about not stealing the bride’s thunder.
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Not a native Southerner, but I’ve been here for 25 years. My southern girl married a southern boy last month. I couldn’t imagine inflicting that sentiment on my son-in-law’s mother. She did defer to me for the dress purchase before she would get hers, but even that gesture seemed ridiculously outdated and pretentious to me. The only guideline I gave her was that I was looking for a navy dress (and I really wouldn’t have cared if she also chose navy). Her other son got married last spring to another southern girl and I guess that MOB was very high maintenance, so she was a little scarred from the experience.
Now, as a parent of two daughters, I do wish that the rules re paying would change 
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Curious - are those rules of paying still in effect? (don’t mean to sideline thread, just curious).
All weddings I’ve been to lately (also my own - 20some years ago!) had the bride/groom funding most of it! If my son ever gets married, I guess I’d just expect that both families would contribute somewhat equitably? (seems fair)
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We have had SO many discussions about who pays what.
I’m personally tired of it. And this is a dress discussion
(Apparently I’m grumpy today)
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I don’t feel any grumpy vibes, lol! Yes, thank you for steering the thread in the right direction! Let’s keep talking about pretty 
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Thinking about wearing these shoes:
Should be OK on grassy areas.
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Paging @VeryHappy who o think cam contribute about not wearing beige!
I knew you would have a wonderful shoe chosen. Those will work with a lot of different colors.
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Gotcha, no worries on directing the thread back to dresses.
Since it’s only very recently that I’ve even thought about kids’ weddings - I haven’t followed any of the other threads on the topic (didn’t even know they existed, lol).
I’m always interested in dresses, no matter the reason, so this was my tangential entry into the very fringes of wedding stuff. Back to cuteness lol.
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Based on the weddings we’ve attended in the past 10-15 years (those that we know the families well enough to hear chit-chat about spending) the bride/bride’s family paying for the ceremony/reception & the groom/groom’s family paying for the reception have still been the standard (again, I’m in the south - traditions here still have a tight grip). I have seen the bride & groom contributing more for things outside the norm - like my D & SIL paid for a welcome party and some overage costs for their reception (we gave my D a lump-sum check at the beginning of the process, and anything over that amount - she & SIL paid for)
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Thanks, momofmab!
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Just in case, here is the link to the main wedding thread (Part 2 already, lol!):
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My sister and I went to Macy’s and Nordstrom’s yesterday. She saw a La Femme beige dress she liked but I thought it was too close to the bridesmaids’ champagne color . Seems like staying away from ivory, champagne, beige in general seems like the safest thing to do.
I didn’t find anything I even wanted to try on yesterday. The JS Collections Cecily navy dress I ordered last week just didn’t work when I got it and tried it on. So, I’m back to square one. I’m hoping that after the holidays, some new styles and colors will be more available for a May wedding.
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Oh that is a bummer. Looks like you are looking for a knee length dress with sleeves (based on the choice of the Cecily dress). What other colors are you considering besides navy?
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The dress is more midi/tea length and that is what I’m looking for, and definitely want sleeves. I still like navy but may also look at some pastels, like a light blue, when more spring colors start showing up. I think I’m just going to wait until January to start looking again as I’ve been looking on and off for months, primarily online. I’m not really that picky, but there seem to be less nice midis out there than either long gowns or shorter dresses. Don’t have a big budget either- ideally about $150-$250 tops.
But, yes, I was disappointed that the dress didn’t work. Would love to have been done so I could start working on what shoes to wear!
I wore a Vince Camuto navy gown to my daughter’s wedding. I got a lot of compliments and felt very confident in it. I didn’t want to spend a ton either and got lucky to find it in 2 sizes at Nordstrom Rack for under $80 each (I wore the smaller size, so YAY!)
If you like the style, here are some similar styles I saw online at Dillards:
Jessica Howard 3/4 Elbow Sleeve Asymmetrical Neck Side Tuck Gown | Dillard’s (dillards.com)
Xscape Ruffle Off-the-Shoulder Column Back Slit Crepe Gown | Dillard’s (dillards.com)
Marina Matte Jersey Long Sleeve Surplice V-Neck Belted Wrap Maxi Dress | Dillard’s (dillards.com)
Betsy & Adam Long Sleeve Surplice V-Neck Front Slit Side Ruched Gown | Dillard’s (dillards.com)
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Thanks so much , @CollegeNerd67 , Very nice but I am definitely not interested in a long gown. The bride’s stepmother is probably wearing pink, about knee length or just below. It is an outdoor wedding in a fairly elegant country inn type setting on many acres. The couple has bought out the property for the weekend so there will be other things I’ll need new clothes for. I’m not really into shopping or fancy clothes so it is exhausting!
Thanks for pointing out nice things from Dillard’s . Dillard’s is the closest store to me, closer than the nearest Macy’s or Nordstrom,so I will probably visit Dillard’s in January.
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@sevmom While is is not my exact dress that I wore to D2’s wedding, it is quite similar and is midi length:
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