<p>Ok, here's my situation:
My parents have always generally trusted me and had faith that I would make the right decisions... and I have. I've never given them any reason to believe that I'm not responsible. However, recently they've established a 9:00pm curfew (which I'm not sure they will enforce), and they told me that I can't use my car during the week for anything other than school (even though I've been driving for almost 3 years). I think their major worry is that I'm going to get pregnant (ha ha) because I have a boyfriend. I can understand their concern, but the problem is... I'm going to be 18 on Friday!!! This is ridiculous!! If I have a job and enough money to support myself, I'm seriously considering moving out (and not just to be a rebelious teenager who's trying to prove something, I just need some freedom!!). In 7 months, I'm moving over 1,000 miles away to go to school at Northwestern, and my parents won't be able to rule my life then. Maybe their trying to squeeze 17 years worth of discipline into 7 months. Regardless, does anyone have any friends who are on their own (i.e. no parental support)?? I'm not sure if I can do it, and I was just wondering if anyone else is in the same boat...</p>
<p>It might be possible, but i think it is a very baaad idea. Are your parents paying for college? if u move out, that answer might change.. I'd say, just try and live with it.. just 7 more months, and you're free for the rest of your life!</p>
<p>It's strange that they started getting strict AFTER college apps have been done..</p>
<p>Anyhow, i guess u could talk with them, but my suggestion would be to grind your teeth and think about your glorious college days!</p>
<p>lol, it is weird that they're starting to get strict now... however, they are NOT paying for my college education. Northwestern is $43,000/year, I got a grant for $32,000, my great great aunt has $4,000/year for me, and my grandpa's paying for the rest, so... hmmm, maybe i could go live w/my grandpa (lol).</p>
<p>if they aren't paying anything I'd crash with grandpa.</p>
<p>Is it really worth screwing up your relationship with your parents for 7 months of freedom?</p>
<p>9 o-freakin-clock DO IT</p>
<p>Make sure you factor in cash for an apartment deposit (many apartments also require a one-year lease), all utilities, cell phone, food, gas, paying your own car insurance (which will be more if you are currently on your parent's policy), health insurance (which is often covered under a parent's policy through college but only if you are a dependent), and of course the intangible benefit of having nothing to worry about except that your parents are being a pain in the neck. ;)</p>
<p>You could always just murder your parents. All the cool kids are doing it.</p>
<p>But really, it doesn't seem worth the expense to get away for 7 months. Yeah, you're getting dicked by your parents pretty badly, but it would cost so damn much to move out. If money's not a problem, do it.</p>
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<p>Suck it up for 7 months. Don't throw a stupid little hissyfit because your parents say you have to be in by 9 and stuff. Maybe if you stop acting like a premature sheltered teenager and start showing some responsibility like a young adult instead of threatening to run off RIGHT BEFORE YOU GO TO COLLEGE, maybe they'd treat you like one.</p>
<p>ouch... that's pretty harsh... i love it when i ask a sincere question and get a snotty remark. much appreciated. but anyway, thanks for everyone's opinion, i just wanna add something: i HAVE been responsible for like 3 years, probably more than most teenagers. my parents have never set a curfew for me because i'm mature and know when it's reasonable to be home (though im NOT sheltered, i've had a few experiences :) which is normal), i pay my own insurance, and im pretty much just having to pay for my cousin's mistake (who got a girl pregnant when she was 16). As for the cost, I found a studio apartment that's $360/month with all utilities paid, my grandpa pays for my cell phone, and my parents would let me stay on their health and car insurance plans... i'm trying to be mature about this, but i feel like i'm being more so than my parents. i'm pretty much just wondering if anyone has either DONE this or KNOW SOMEONE who's done it... regardless of whether or not it worked out...</p>
<p>oh, and btw, my parents are then one's telling me that if i don't like it, i can move out... but i don't think they expected me to take them seriously.</p>
<p>If you've got it financially worked out, I say do it.</p>
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<p>But the question is, will the insurance companies allow you to stay on your parents' health and car insurance plans if you no longer live in their household? It might not be an issue until an incident arose, but that is the nature of insurance. When you are on your own, small issues have a way of becoming huge issues. I think moving out is overkill and will cause more problems than it will solve. Also, make sure you know where your grandfather and great aunt stands on the issue of you moving out b/c that could dry up some of your funds if they side with your parents. And where will you go on vacations? summers? Going home can be a big part of the college experience.</p>
<p>Hi bufrosh09 ... being stuck in this situation must really stink. I'd hate to have the next 50 years of your relationship with your parents negatively effected by the next 7 months ... that said the 9:00 curfew seems pretty harsh. </p>
<p>I'd suggest trying to talk through the the curfew with your parents ... try to understand the specific things they are concerned about and see if you can figure out ways to alleviate those fears while loosening the curfew. For example, maybe they are afraid of your being alone with your boyfriend ... maybe they will let you stay out later as long as you're with another couple or call in from the movie theater or something. Can you guys talk through their concerns and devise ways for you to earn their trust? If the 3 of you can't talk through this is there someone who can help you guys work through this ... a favorite aunt or uncle, a good friend of your parents you think would be fair to you, etc.</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>uhh yeah talk it over iwth your parents, it's ridiculous to just move out because you don't like your curfew</p>
<p>My sister is 10 years older than me and I had to grow up with all the screaming and yelling between her and our parents. It's not worth it. She got kicked out a few days after graduation and for the past 10 years have been through a marriage and divorce and been working various jobs and had car problems, lived in several states and has been homeless several times. She didn't call much but she claimed she did not want to go back to Illinois because she enjoyed her new freedom (even though her main purpose for the phone call was to ask my mom for money). A few weeks ago my mom found her waiting in the parking lot when she came home from work.</p>
<p>Well rather then judge, I'll tell you of two of my friends who have moved out for various reasons. The first: a friends father died and she didn't get along with her step mother at all and so she moved in with her boyfriend... who is considerably older and lives on his own. She works nearly full time and pays for mostly everything. She has been moved out and living on her own(well, her grandparents are watching over her making sure she's still surviving) since her sophomore year. She has become emancipated(spelling??) and has no relationship with her step mother. She has gotten into college will attend next year on a FULL(incl room/board) scholarship. </p>
<p>Second: doesn't get along with parents and after getting into ALOT of trouble, she moved in with a friend. It was a mutual agreement between both sets of parents and girl A who moved out has her parents pay rent to girl Bs parents. She is still fully supported and does not have a job. Actually quite sad... </p>
<p>My advice is to stick with it but you know what is best for you...</p>