Last year, my freshman year of college, I met a girl who was great. We immediately clicked and became best friends and forever joined at the hip. My parents thought she was a great friend for me to have. They probably spent over $500 on her. My dad even paid for her tires when she blew them and claimed to not have the money. But a few weeks ago, the beginning of my sophomore year, she and I got into what I thought was a small fight but she blew it out of proportion and wouldn’t even let me apologize. She got very defensive and we basically just cut all contact. I have considered trying to be her friend again but I can’t give up my pride like that. She wasn’t even a very good person. Now it’s nearly 7 weeks into my sophomore year and I hardly have any friends. All of my other friends took her side because they are closer to her than they are with me. I live in an apartment so I can’t really make friends in a dorm. I hang out with my roommates at home but we never actually go out. I have one friend but she’s always with her boyfriend. I need serious advice on what to do. How should I make new friends? I feel so lonely and lost. I used to have so much fun and now I’m always sitting in my room or hiding in the library so it seems like I have some sort of life. I refuse to apologize to this girl again because she did me dirty in so many ways (I don’t want to get to specific just in case someone I know runs into this post)
Join clubs and activities on campus that interest you. The only way to make friends with similar interests is to get engaged in those interests.
It sucks to lose a friend, or even new people that you just met at college. I had it happen to me last year (story is in the paragraph below), but I also had some people come in and out of my life. You meet some and you lose some. IMO, I believe that it’s her own fault because she made a big deal out of what you believed was nothing. But, to be honest, people deal with stuff differently from others. So, what might not seem like a big deal to you might’ve been to her.
My Story: It was the first or second day of college of my freshman year when I approached this group of people who were throwing a frisbee. I joined in and then I found myself eating with them and hanging out with them all day. This might’ve happened for about 1-2 days, until they “got busy”. They probably lost interest in me and then they continued on their own. Now that I think about it, everyone was meeting new people during the first few days of college. Some people attach to each other right away while others will try to mingle with everyone during that time.
A break up is painful, you feel alone and like you are starting over. That’s why often when people get divorced or widowed they say they have to start a new life. You will have to do just that, start a new life without her, put yourself out there as @doschicos suggests. It will take time and effort, but you can do it.
You do at least have a few friends. Meeting new people is a process. Talk to other kids in class. Say hi. Maybe in a couple of weeks, see if anyone wants to set up a study group. Ask your rommates to go out. Your ex-friend, tbh, doesn’t sound like much of a friend. If your pride isn’t allowing you to apolgize, I suspect that deep down, you understand you might be better off without that kind of a friend. You will get through this, but you need to give it time.