My Birthday....Sucks!

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<p>Hey,</p>

<p>So it's my 19th birthday(legal in canada) and I'm having a party along with another friend whose birthday it is. Now I've invited alot of people over facebook, but I'm really nervous about this party. Now I'm sure that people are going to show up because my friend is insanely popular. </p>

<p>My fear is that none of my friends (who I've known for over 2 years now) will show up. This fear isn't without reasoning, since they're very 'fickle' in that I usually get invited late or find out about their parties through another friend. I know they aren't the greatest/most reliable group of friends to make in college, but they've helped me alot school-wise(I would have failed without them). Also what sucks is that I can't have people over at my place for pre-drinking because it's tiny and the roof access involves jumping over a gate. Should I go over another friend's place for pre-drinks? Should I invite other people there? Hell I'm afraid even that friend won't end up going even though he's one of the closest friends I have here (I have good friends at home at least). It doesn't help that midterms are going on right now. </p>

<p>Anyway, 19th birthdays are always supposed to be a blast and memorable, and I'm afraid my friends will let me down. I know, I'm overthink quite a bit for a guy, but that's just me. So any advice, or birthday wishes would be nice since it's 4:30 am and I still can't fall asleep because I'm so nervous about tonight!! (It would be funny if I slept through it because I stayed up due to nervousness haha)</p>

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<p>Disappointments are character building. It sounds like you have a pretty good birthday plan and you are being practical with anticipating some disappointments- that's good. </p>

<p>Lower your expectations, be grateful for the help that your unreliable friends extend and recognize their limitations. Sounds like they are not party people and probably more concerned about midterms. Birthdays are really not that big of a deal, do something for yourself- buy a great sandwich! & hit the books. That's called growing up. </p>

<p>PS Happy Birthday- it was the important day in your parent's life!</p>

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<p>Thanks, newjersey. You did give me some perspective. </p>

<p>One major blow is that my 'best' friend (in that I know him the best and hang out with him the most) isn't coming because of midterms! Despite the fact that other friends who are coming who have the same midterm and knowing him for so long, I'm pretty bummed. I'll party hard anyway, but I won't consider him nearly as good as a friend. The very least he could show up for a bit (he lives only a few blocks away from the bar)</p>