<p>I know from the title of this thread that I sound a little bit selfish, but I really don't know what to do, and need some anonymous advice. </p>
<p>I'm in my final year at school and therefore have A LOT of work on. I'm waiting to hear from American unis and it's very stressful! My bf is older than me and already at university. </p>
<p>Recently, he's gone off the rails completely. He's fallen into a deep depression and has abandoned his friends and family. I'm the only person he'll talk to. I've told him to get help but he's very stubborn! The trouble is, I'm not strong enough to prop him up by myself. It's vital that I work hard at the moment, since I'm taking my A Levels in a few months, but I can't seem to concentrate with my bf's problems hanging over my head. </p>
<p>I think I want to break up with him, but I would feel so guilty. I'm also angry with him for putting so much emotional pressure on me when he knows that I'm at a pivotal part of my life. </p>
<p>I think if you really love him, then escort him to see psychoanalytic doctor. Doctors can treat for him by some useful methods and give him some medicine. I think it is the best and fastest way to save him from his depression. But, if you really can not to tolerate him anymore. I think you should break up with him or you will get melancholia. Think carefully about you love him or not.</p>
<p>Well I have gone through extreme depression as well and it is obviously safe to say that if you dump him, his depression will elevate to a whole new level. At the same time you would have to feel that if you dump him, your grades will also elevate to a new level. I am unfamliar with the quote system as I am knew to this website so I am going to copy paste a sentence or two that you posted here.</p>
<p>“I think I want to break up with him, but I would feel so guilty. I’m also angry with him for putting so much emotional pressure on me when he knows that I’m at a pivotal part of my life.”</p>
<p>I don’t see you going on like this for long, it is just hard and unreasonable to hide anger for a long period of time. So in your case I think you should probably dump him but before you do that, talk to him about your situation and how you feel and then make the decision based on his reaction or what he is willing to do. Especially if he can be the reason you don’t get into the university you want, dump him.</p>
<p>Dump him. Think about yourself and your future. Can you really see yourself with some manic depressive guy for the rest of high school? Maybe he’ll get help when he hits rock bottom.</p>
<p>Break up him if you’ve lost sight of your love for him but continue to be open to him on some level. He needs help, and if you can be there for him–even if you restrict it to once a week or whatever–you should be.</p>
<p>Medical help could increase or decrease his depression. Some people get embarrassed and feel stupid getting help for their own problems. But some open up and get better.</p>
<p>We can’t make that choice across the internet. Srry…</p>
<p>If you don’t love him…break up with him…even though you will hurt him…</p>
<p>If you love him, you should NOT break up with him…Think of how that would affect his depression. You’re the only one that can help him so I say you stick by his side and try to get him on the right path. Don’t seek medical care. You need to show him that he is loved and that he has a place on this Earth for him. YOU need to do this.</p>
<p>Back off. He seems to be emotionally draining you, and it doesn’t seem like it the relationship is beneficial for either of you. From what you’ve stated, you can’t really give him the emotional support he needs, so he needs to find someone that can. In the meanwhile, I wouldn’t break up with him completely, because that would be absolutely devastating for him. Don’t do that if you care for him at all. Don’t be cruel; be sensitive and listen to some of his problems, but don’t invest your life in him. Try seeking some professional help for him.</p>