(Oh and note: I have posted this on reddit yesterday before today, but the situation today hasn’t resolved.) (Also sorry, I’m new to CC, so I don’t know how to really post on it, so I want to make it into a general post)
I got accepted to UCF for Summer 2017 (I didn’t want to stick around at home for a while). Meanwhile, I got deferred from FSU, and got accepted to UF PACE (an online program from UF). My dad was REALLY upset about the fact that I couldn’t get into the UF campus itself. He told me he wanted to call the school to try and change the admissions, because he said I couldn’t do anything. But I told him that could really affect my chances of trying to make the school as a transfer from UCF to UF.
Then, he discussed on how UCF is really such a terrible school, and that I’m nothing but a “Joe-blow person” and how I’m not a scholar kid. I tried to assure him that I would make it to UF, but he gives me a whole spiel on how “I’m going to ruin myself” and how “He was so much better than me going to his college” before transferring to the military. Anyways, we had an argument, I was stating that I’m just only going to UCF to get my AA, but my dad wants me to go to UF. He states this due to the amount of college credits I should have, in which I have enough to become a sophomore in college. However, I only made it to UF PACE, and my father was really upset about that. Either way, I will (hopefully) transfer to UF from UCF at the as soon as I get my AA. But later on, my father tells me on how bad UCF is, and how I shouldn’t go to a “terrible school” to transfer from, and questions why I am getting an AA from a university and transfer over. Then my father criticizes me on my timeliness for turning in my applications last minute, saying that colleges don’t like last minute applications.
My father and I then argued on the cost, in which I just stated I will try to pay for college, but my father said that I can’t handle both a job and college. He argued that as soon as he pays for college, he wants to see EVERYTHING I am doing (from grades and classes, to extra-curriculum) at school. At the end result, I want to transfer to either Northwestern or Chicago for medical school as soon as I get my Bachelor’s as a UF transfer(again hopefully), but my father doubts that I would ever make it there, and calls me the “Joe-blow” for it. He then later recorded me making a promise to make it to IVY league schools, in which would add a lot of pressure onto me, and wants me to hold on to that promise. I really am trying my hardest, and I have fell behind sometimes, but I am planning to try and make it ahead as well, but my father doesn’t see it. My father argued that I will end up on the streets, and I just feel really annoyed as I try to focus my reasoning that I will try harder, but he doesn’t believe so.
What am I going to do? This is too much pressure from my father, and I feel like I should just leave him and go to college without him. At the same time, I also will have to pay a heavy amount of debt when I have to go to med school, especially in the more prestigious colleges. But my father just doubts me ever so much. What do you guys think about this predicament that I’m in. I’m sorry if I’m just being too self-centered about this situation, but I do want your responses as to what I should do, and how I should handle this whole ordeal. Thank you for responding! 