<p>I'm a senior in high school and my dad wants me to go to the in state college (u of alabama). Before I got in, he wanted me to apply to a bunch of expensive out of state schools and go there. I applied to tulane because he said that I should and told me it would be a really good school for me to go to. I was really surprised to have gotten in and was exited and I told him and he didn't even say anything to me...I also got into some other really good schools that he suggested and then when I was admitted he didn't care and just said that the in state school was better. He told me to not pay attention to tuition at all and just pick where I felt the most comfortable with, but whenever I bring up going anywhere besides the in state school (university of alabama) he just says why would you want to go there. I got a full tuition scholarship to alabama and he said congratulations it is a great school world known for football... I only applied there as a safety school. I know it is a good school but it doesn't seem for me, and it sounds like he makes fun of me possibly going there. My sister went to carnegie mellon which costs a ton of money and he never once told her to go to a less expensive school even though she had full scholarships to other places. Why is he acting like that towards me? I know he has enough money saved for me to go to Ivy League schools so it's not a money issue.</p>
<p>1) You should sit down and have a talk with him. I know this sounds obvious but he has to have some kind of reasoning,so try to pry it out of him. If that doesn’t work you can wait till he has alcohol in his system and yea…things come out easier haha</p>
<p>2) University of Alabama is a good school and the fact you have full-tuition is a position many wish they could be in. So at the very least, you have an excellent future.</p>
<p>That’s about all I can help with. Your situation seems very confusing so best of luck to you to figure it out!</p>
<p>It may be because I don’t have as much ambition as my sister. My sister was always a better student than me and went to yale for law school and now works on Wall Street making a lot of money. He wants me to do something professional like that or engineering or to become a doctor, but I don’t really want to though I haven’t decided what to study. He also said that I have to go to an Ivy League school for graduate school.</p>
<p>Sit down and ask your dad what’s really going on. maybe there’s some money issues. Maybe it is because he thinks that you’re less ambitious or something. Maybe he (wrongly) thinks that you should have a career picked out already.</p>
<p>Is English your first language? maybe I’m wrong, but I’m detecting that maybe you’re an immigrant or maybe your parents are?</p>
<p>Something may be happening financially that is worrying your father…for example, some investments may not be going so well, or maybe his job is in jeopardy…so maybe he is worried that he will not be able to pay for some of those schools now, even though he thought he could previously, and he does not want to worry you. Also, maybe your father is now realizing that grad school (which is very, very expensive because there generally is no financial aid or merit money) might be in the cards for you too, and he would like to save his money for you to use then.</p>
<p>Have a serious, non-blaiming talk with your dad as two adults planning your future by considering all alternative that are on the table. He will love you for it</p>
<p>My parents are immigrants. I’m sure he does hve enough money because he told me at one point that I should consider harvard and some other equally expensive schools.</p>