I agree entirely. That said, I believe every word of it. Why? Ockham’s razor. We have two equally good schools and her preferred one is a fraction of the cost of his. Assuming economic rationality, UVa is a better choice so I can’t see any benefit in framing the story to shine a poor light on her father.
I’m curious why you’re so willing to rationalize emotionally abusive and controlling behavior. What possible reason can you come up with the justify his behavior? Since you’re so adamant we consider his side of the story, I’m going to ask you to be creative, play pretend and write up the father’s rationale for acting this way. Let your creative juices flow.
BTW: I read ahead and realize she’s been extorted into committing to Berkeley so it’s just a mind experiment. I think be interested in your response.