<p>Sounds like a father who loves you and is trying to protect you. It also sounds like you are a typical teen who rebels at parental controls. It could be better, it could be worse. You seem to have average grades for a college bound student- not spectacular. </p>
<p>There is no way anyone can prevent you from growing up. Physically your body just does it and socially, mentally, emotionally YOU are in charge of your behavior. Maturity can come from learning how to deal successfully with adversity. In your case it can mean learning how to cope with your life and yet learn things so you are ready for life beyond HS. Being a grown up doesn’t mean always getting to do what you want, btw.</p>
<p>No one’s childhood is perfect. Show your father your maturity in your choices. Get the best grades that you can, even if you dislike the classes. Do you have other relatives, such as aunts, uncles or grandparents to talk to about when you should be allowed to do things? </p>
<p>My problems with some of the same things involved finances. Couldn’t afford clothes. Had trouble learning the stick shift on our old car. Had limited funds for activities. You aren’t the only girl in HS who is not dressing like she wants to, or doing things she wants to. </p>
<p>Advice from other posters- listen to it. Discuss college opportunities with your guidance counselor to be sure you come up with realistic choices for your interests, abilities and future work. Use the “it takes a village” principle to add mentors.</p>