<p>I agree that the situation calls for help from a therapist.</p>
<p>I am not so sure that I know enough to bring D home right now. </p>
<p>Bringing her home effects the immediate disruption of what might constitute the major portion of meaning and purpose in her life--her schoolwork. </p>
<p>It certainly would be disastrous if D were to attempt or complete suicide at school. It would be equally disastrous, though, if she were to attempt or complete suicide at home. </p>
<p>I would want the involvement of an experienced therapist before, not just after, I intervened in a such a decisive way.</p>
<p>You've taken a good first step in reaching out to the school, but I would go to see her. Unannounced.</p>
<p>A genuinely suicidal, deeply depressed friend of mine refused all offers to visit. If I had simply turned up on his doorstep, I'm fairly sure he would have been happy about it. I still regret taking no for an answer.</p>
<p>Need to see someone and you need to go there given all this stuff. Otherwise I would have said try to wait it out. But there may be more going on so help is needed.</p>
<p>This would be enough information for me to consult the counselors at school as well as making a trip to see her for yourself. I would call her ahead of time and tell her you were coming and then you will be able to assess the situation from there. You know your daughter better than anyone, and she may need you more than ever right now. All the best.</p>
<p>My gut feeling says get yourself up there. I think that's what your gut is telling you. Listen to your gut. I'm glad you have talked to the school, but I think for your peace of mind -- and perhaps other reasons -- you need to get in the car or get on a plane and go see her. Soon.</p>
<p>I agree with JustAMomOf4 that you should be concerned about your daughter not getting the classes she needs and the major she wants. Your daughter's complaint that her school is "unorganized," is also a significant cause for concern.</p>
<p>I suggest that you advise your daughter to contact the head of the academic department in which she intended to pursue her chosen major, and find out why she--a first semester freshman--has already been shut out of her intended degree program. She should also find out if there is anything she can do to access her intended degree program. If your daughter is told that there is absolutely no way she will be able to pursue the degree of her choice, then I suggest that you advise her to consider attending a different school--a school where she will be able to earn the degree (and prepare for the career) of her choice. </p>
<p>I think a college degree is more important than "the college experience." Even though your daughter was initially "excited" about attending this small private college, her opinion has clearly changed. If this "unorganized" school cannot (or will not) meet your daughter's academic needs, then the school is wasting your daughter's time, effort, and money. She deserves better.</p>
<p>I agree with the other posters about contacting the college, getting her evaluated ASAP, asking the RA to look in on her. Definitely go see her. More than anything that will give her the message that you love her no matter what and are there for her.</p>