<p>I only agree with you if it was a 'severe' case of behavorial problems - and IMHO - yes this situation is a bit serious - but not life ending - things can be turned around and success can be achieved. Facing things head on can be one of the most difficult things one can do - but it can be done and have a very positive outcomes irregardless.</p>
<p>In the examples you quoted - I sure as heck would not want the kid in all the trouble and multi schools and now in med school treating me or mine - if he got in trouble again - I really wonder what the price could be.</p>
<p>If this was case where the law was involved - maybe I would look at it a bit differently - but it was handled in an appropriate manner and with an appropriate end - and facing the music and living with it - shows character and maturity - changing schools is not the answer IMHO.</p>
<p>I tend to try to put a positive spin on situations my kids have experienced - lifes lessons - learn from mistakes - move on. In the situation with this gal - true she has used bad judgement - but it does not have to ruin her future - which is up to her now. With many kids - the wake up call is all they need - tho with others - they just don't get it - I would prefer to hope that this gal got her wake up call. And since none of us really know her - we are not able to determine or judge the potentials in her future.</p>
<p>Just my opinion, Jeepmom, and as I said earlier, the details would be important in the decision, including the student's input. It may well be the best thing to stick it out. Even if other issues occur later , it still may have been the best decision given all of the facts to stay there. But I have moved mine in highschool and college, and each time they benefitted greatly from the move. I nearly moved this one, the current senior from his highschool--it was a close decision, and I am glad at this moment, that I did not. But I am nervous about the rest of the year and senior prank time, I can guarantee you. When he did not show up at school during an unsancitioned senior skip day this fall, the dean of discipline called us first. We had gone through the channels weeks before to let the school know he was going to be out that day for an audition, but it did not even occur to the guy to check that list of scheduled absences, he was so sure he had caught a live one. You can be sure if anything happens, he will be one of the "regular charactors", they round up. Sticking him in a new school would alleviate that problem. Also I worry about the temptation there for him to get into trouble. If he gets through all right, then all is well, but I really do not want any more trouble.</p>
<p>Changing schools is not always the best option - nor is it always a possibility - kids need to learn to be accountable for their actions and have to face the music of their actions. Both of mine have learned from situations that turned me RED at the time - and they had no choice but to face what they did and any actions taken against them - take responsability - and move on - very successfully in fact - they had no other choice in these matters. As these lessons in life are learned - they realize what taking responsability for oneself really means - cuz they know we won't be there always to bail them out - it will be up to them - and they learn from one experience to the next how life really works. The stay and face it and live with it has taught them how to handle other situations that may come up during their lives.</p>
<p>And BTW - I have to awesome kiddos - not overlooking anything they have ever done - they aren't perfect - but they sure are great people - we happen to like where both have landed in life and are secure in the fact that they both will be very independant and will be able to survive in this world on their own.</p>