My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum.

<p>Ultimatums are not worth responding to- especially at your age. Take care of yourself. Follow your educational plans. If the relationship is meant to be, it will weather the storm. If not, it wont matter where you go to school.</p>

<p>Dump her today.
Don’t even consider the ultimatum.</p>

<p>Save her the trouble. BReak up with her, and then tell her where you’re going to school.</p>

<p>Wow. Unless she is paying for your next 4 years of college, I don’t think she gets to dictate where you go. Its fine for her to express her wishes, but NOT to give ultimatums. Do what’s best for you and then let her know she should do what’s best for her whatever that may be and that you wish her the best. :P</p>

<p>She just gave you a reason to get out of the relationship.</p>

<p>The other posters said it well.</p>

<p>I’d like to add that UNH is not comparable to UVM, which is a better school. I doubt that iit offers you a comparable marine biology experience to URI.</p>

<p>GO where you want to go! It is your future, not hers! </p>

<p>Imagine how dumb you would feel if you went to UNH and then she split up with you after you got there??</p>

<p>That is not a real relationship if that is how she treats you and handles this. If she really loved you, she would be happy for you and be feeling so torn about it all, to the point of of considering changing her own plans, or compromising somehow.
Not happening. Not worth it. If you do break up. you can always find each other again, if it is meant to be.
I also wonder what the statistics are for HS relationships breaking up in college, when at same school, even!
Grow and take care of yourself. Have fun!</p>

<p>You say this seems ridiculous. It is. You already know what to do, as all of us here.</p>

<p>Adults sit down and discuss issues they face in a relationship, see if they can reach a resolution. Adolescents and immature adults steer relationships with demands and ultimatums. So now that your GF has shown what you’ve got, its your turn to decide what to do about it…</p>

<p>If she’s going to break up with you over this, then how do you know she won’t break up with you over something else later?</p>

<p>You could give her an ultimatum right back. tell her she either supports you in your decision to attend whatever school you choose, or the relationship is over. See what happens when the shoe is on the other foot.</p>

<p>Speaking as the mother to sons - you don’t want a woman who issues those sorts of ultimatums. You will spend the entire relationship being manipulated.</p>

<p><em>hugs</em></p>

<p>What I want to know is how this relationship lasted a year and a half when she’s obviously very selfish and immature.</p>

<p>the chances are you will break up with her in college anyway, so go to wherever you want</p>

<p>I would advise that you pick the best school for you, and then let her know you want to see if the relationship can continue long distance (if that is what you want) and will work at it. If she calls it off, be a gentleman about it. If you so want, stay in contact but gently , politely and leave the door open, but don’t be pushy. Who nows how it will work out? I was married after a two year separation due to school.</p>

<p>I’ve seen a similar situation, minus the ultimatum. BF got into Kentucky, GF got into Michigan. He asked her to go with him (she applied and got into UK as well), but she declined. Basically she said that turning down Michigan would backfire down the road, and if it was meant to be they would find a way to make it work.</p>

<p>They are no longer together</p>

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I’m thinking a 3-letter word beginning with S provided the glue ;)</p>

<p>Seriously, though, I think the OP ought to take this as cause for reflection. I’m going to go out on a limb and speculate that the OP is somewhat passive and readily controlled by his romantic partner; while the current situation is extreme and got a reaction, even now the reaction isn’t to show her the door on his own initiative but to wonder how to handle it. </p>

<p>Personality is by no means set in stone at 18, so the OP ought to reflect a bit on how he handles relationships lest he continue to attract girls that are just as controlling.</p>