@momofsenior1 - I really hope so!!
If you are two sisters then I don’t see what the big deal is of sharing a dorm or apartment with your sister. At least you will be with someone you know vs a chance of having a horrible roommate. Be grateful that you get to live on campus.
While it may not be your ideal situation, look at the positives.
You know your sister, an unknown roommate could be a bad fit or worse.
You will meet friends and might spend most of your time away from the room.
If you do need a familiar face, your sister will be there.
She will graduate in two years and hopefully you can then live with another roommate.
Never mind guys 
dorms are out of the equation and I have to commute :’’’)
What happened?
They forced you to take a college that was somewhere they could move to? Okay, that’s actually very helicopter-parent of them to do. Honestly, it doesn’t sound like you are gonna get any freedom until you become independent and don’t rely on their money at all. As long as their paying for your room and board/tuition, you kind of have to deal with their demands. That really sucks honestly, but since your sister is a junior in college you’ll at least be able to have your own dorm for like 2 years?
I guess you could find friends that are understanding of your situation, and try to go over at their dorm rooms when you get the chance. Later you can try getting an apartment but that would mean you’d need to start working and making enough to sustain yourself. Not sure if your parents would like that though.
You may be disappointed you have to commute.
Think of it as the price you have to pay to go to college.
Do well in college so you can get a job and become independent.
Yeah, I’m not letting it get me down too much. I’m going to get a job so I can keep myself busy on my down time, and I’ll spend as much time AWAY from home as I can. The reason I can’t dorm is because my dad is 100% against loans so I can’t take any out to pay for my room and board. We don’t have enough money to pay for four years on campus, and I don’t qualify for any grants. Sucks ://
Is the sister also commuting?
yes, but she will be going into her junior year of college.
I actually kind of like this story. The parents are teaching their children independence (to get away from them), facilitating their education and not saddling them with crippling debt. There have been many worse outcomes on these boards.
@damon30 - I mean I get what you’re saying, but what exactly am I learning from anything that my parents are “teaching me”? They are setting me up for failure by not allowing me to make mistakes, not know what it is like living on my own, not allowing me the rights to freedom that I deserve? They are literally picking up everything and MOVING 30 minutes away from my campus. I don’t know if you saw my previous post, but I can’t dorm anymore. I will be commuting as a freshman. Yes, I get the luxury of not being in “crippling debt”, but I also will never have that experience of knowing the feeling of doing anything for myself. I will enter the “real world” completely lost.
Dorming is not the real world at all. If you want the real world, get a job, pay your own way through college.
You can revisit this in a few years. Nobody is entitled to a college education. Be thankful you can go.
16 months, and then you will be done, maybe sooner. Then you can pay for your own rent hopefully and live where you want.
“not allowing me the rights to freedom that I deserve” Oh jeez. They are not chaining you to your bed.
Dorming and mandatory meal plan cost $11,000-$12,000 at my kids’ schools.
It is not cheap. Be thankful your parents are enabling you to get a college education.
Living on your own first in a dorm, then in an apartment, is a good system to learn autonomy and independence. It sucks and it’s unfair that you can’t have that experience, but many kids don’t have it either. So, you’ll make do - and get the best grades you can, use career services starting freshman year to have a formated resume, prepare for internships, join clubs and groups, so that you can get a great job and make it possible or your children to dorm.
As a commuter, your challenges will be to achieve the following
- consider college your full time job. Take classes at 9 am, and stay till the library closes. Do not go home for lunch/ dinner/naps, participate in the clubs, study groups, and review sessions that take place 7-10pm.
- get an on campus job and save money.
Your freedom will come from your ability to hold a job and have money in your own bank account.
I would LOVE to move to the town where my child will be attending college! But my husband, child, friends, colleagues, extended family members, and everyone else I’ve ever known would all tell me I was out of my mind.
It’s odd that this family has no such reality checks. But 4 years will pass, and the OP’s independence will eventually be won. This level of family dependence is unusual and a little scary, tbh.
Thanks everyone for your input, whether you agree or disagree with how I feel about the situation. I’ve gotten over it a bit, just took a while. It’s pretty interesting reading the viewpoints of other parents, and it’s refreshing to know I’m not calling my parents crazy for no reason. I guess the reason why I was so upset in the past was because I thought my parents would always treat me like a high schooler no matter how old I was. As in, I would be a 22/23 year old in college and because I’m still living at home, they would treat me like I was 16… it’s whatever now. nothing i can do to stop my mother. I’ll do whatever I can to get myself to where I wish to be. Whether that’s studying and working at the same time to pay for my own apartment or staying at home and finishing my degree, I’ll just let life take the reigns.
I’m sorry you are not getting what you wanted. I didn’t think having to room with your sister was so terrible. Some people feel s randomly picked stranger more stressful.
Now it’s not an issue. I figured the chances small you can just order up a two room suite for your kids at most schools.
It’s your parents’ money. They don’t have to give you a dime. Or a place to live or anything. You are 18, you can walk out the door and do it on your own. Anything they offer to you at this point is a gift.