My parents don't think I'm ready to go to a school out of state??

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<p>A few of the schools that I really want to apply to this year are out of state and mostly in California (Loyola Marymount, Rollins, Flagler, Cal Poly, Biola, Pitzer etc.)
My mom and dad don't feel like I'm ready to be on my own and that far away. I've had some medical issues in the past and a few that I'm currently dealing with (but nothing too severe that it would hinder my ability to function as a normal college student) which leads to their doubts for me. I'm just wondering if there's any out of staters right now that can give me something to tell them about how being far from home is normal or won't cause any issues.</p>

<p>I've lived in suburban Illinois all my life and I feel like it would be good for me to experience something new. A few of my close friends live in California right now and also the job options out there are much better compared to Illinois.
I understand that it's expensive and air fare is a bitch etc I've taken all that into consideration and I've been thinking about this for a long time.</p>

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<p>The key might be if you and your family can afford any “emergency” airfares between O’Hare or Midway and LA. However, you can also ensure you have good connections to medical care in CA and coordinate care between your IL caregiver and your CA caregiver. Residential college students aren’t really “on their own.” Don’t live off campus — you could even stay residential for all four years (though you might do study abroad one year, no?). Eventually, you might have a car out there and make amazing road trips from IL to CA to travel back and forth between the school years. You can Skype with mom & dad. Stay in touch. Give them FERPA waivers each year and POA for Heathcare when you turn 18. These can help them feel connected and secure. Good luck! </p>

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<p>Before you apply, you may want to check how much your parents can afford. We have students applying to our California schools who have no idea how expensive it is out here. Maybe this is why your parents don’t want you to go out of state.</p>