<p>I have a Marilyn Manson poster I could send your way, if you need one.</p>
<p>What rsingh13 said!</p>
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<p>Tell your roommate to find somewhere else to take these kids. It’s your room, too, and you deserve to have some space. If he gives you problems, go to the RA and work your way up the hierarchy as needed.</p>
<p>Plus, the kids could possibly be cited for trespassing. Highly unlikely, but you could bring it up to your roommate and tell him that if all those kids got in trouble, it wouldn’t look well on him.</p>
<p>Please, please, PLEASE keep us updated!!!</p>
<p>^ I was just about to say the same thing. This is so weird.</p>
<p>Your roommate is obviously a budding pedo.</p>
<p>I talked to him on Monday and told him that I think they should find a better place to hang out. I kind of lied and said something along the lines of “It’s probably really uncomfortable in here, you guys need a bigger room.” He seemed offended and asked why I care considering I’m hardly ever in the room. </p>
<p>Last night he had three of them over and I was sitting at my desk doing homework the entire time. One of the girls started breathing heavily and fanning her face with her hands and said they needed to go outside. According to my roommate,the ‘satanic nature’ of my music was upsetting her and making herfeel “ill.” When they came back they were all talking really loud like my music was distorting their voices. I spoke up and asked if everything was alright and my roommate said to mind my own business.</p>
<p>Parents came and picked them up around 9. I left the room shortly before because I didn’t wanna get up in that business. Business proceeded as normal after.</p>
<p>He might be hard to budge, because truly, I really am hardly ever in the room.</p>
<p>talk to the RA…to cover yourself. It is weird, and inappropriate.</p>
<p>Ugh, my high school kids go to youth group, and I wouldn’t want them in somebody’s dorm room. What are those parents thinking? I agree - talk to the RA. I think you’re going to have to be vocal. You may not be in the room much, but it was annoying as recently as last night!</p>
<p>OP-
Call the church and ask to talk to the youth pastor or pastor.
Be as respectful as possible but tell him that you do not want the church’s youth in your room, that your room mate is using the room against your wishes.
Did the parents of the high school girls really want them hanging out in a college guy’s dorm room?
Remind him that your parents are paying thousands of dollars for the dorm room and are not happy it is being used by students who aren’t even college aged.
Ask him to speak to your roommate about finding other places for him to fellowship with high schoolers.
Tell him you will report this matter to your RA, Ombudsman(mediates student complaints) and Student Housing if the matter is not settled.</p>
<p>If that doesn’t work then time to call in the goths.</p>
<p>But might you be in the room if it wasn’t full of loud and judgmental high school kids? “You avoid the room” ≠*“you are not allowed to have any say in what would make the room more comfortable for you to actually be in.”</p>
<p>^agree. I would talk to the RA immediately.</p>
<p>The whole idea of highschool kids hanging out in a “safe place” which is a college campus dorm room is just creepy. These parents need their heads examined and your room mate has some serious problems if he can’t form relationships with age appropriate peers. I don’t buy any of his story and I would insist that he get those kids OUT immediately. I would even ask for a roommate change. I would also venture to say that the university would never permit this and I would go pick up one of thos posted flyers and make a copy of it to show to your RA and the Presidents office. I would not trust him.</p>
<p>Sounds like a strange situation. There are some good posts with advice that would work without a doubt. No matter what i would imagine that since you didn’t ask to be put into the situation, you would rather not have to directly confront anyone. Meaning you probably don’t want to approach the church or even have conversations with the parents. That is totally understandable.</p>
<p>Letting the RA know that there is a group of high school kids visiting your room as a group is important though. If they are using your room as a meeting place then you could possibly use that as a technical way of making them all find another place.</p>
<p>The truth is there is no reason why you should have to alter your activities because of your roommates habits. It is one thing to be polite about the other persons study habits and to try to not be too intrusive yourself. It is altogether different though to have to deal with a constant stream of judgement and condescension from his friends.</p>
<p>Since it is your room too, you should live in it the way that you want to. Instead of leaving when they are making you uncomfortable, maybe you should relieve some stress with some of your excellent video games. Or play your favorite music. if they get weird and start talking loud then smile and turn up the music.</p>
<p>Fight back the oppressiveness with your lifestyle choices. Instead of you running off and letting them have the room, you need to make them feel uncomfortable. </p>
<p>Cloaking the judgmental snobbery and oppressiveness in a Christian better than thou attitude is such bull. There is no reason why someone should be using their religious beliefs to make someone else feel uncomfortable intentionally. It gives all Christians a bad name. Don’t let them push you to hide who you are. Drink your booze, watch your r-rated movies and play your ungodly music as loud as you want. Tell them if they have an issue to go find another clubhouse because that room is yours and not theirs.</p>
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<p>You see, I’ve tried that! That’s part of why I’ve stayed in the room during their last two gatherings. I always dip before the parents show up but I do play my music quietly and I have the feeling some of them feel uncomfortable worshiping with me there, considering I’m Jewish and I’m 99% sure my roommate has made them aware of that. The same snotty girl who was practically hyperventilating when I was listening to THE FRAY (soo satanic, right…) always raises her chin up at me like she has authority because of her faith.</p>
<p>I mentioned to my roommate that I’m beginning to become not-okay with this. I stated my support for his organization but I said that they could find a better place to do so. He instantly jumped on me for not supporting his religous (wait, didn’t you tell me you weren’t actually religous a couple weeks ago?) lifestyle and that if I can’t be accepting of his faith that he “has some things about my religion that he doesn’t approve of” to tell me. </p>
<p>He’s just so childish and I can’t tell if he’s defending his “religion” or just trying to maintain his social status.</p>
<p>It’s a lose-lose situation for me.</p>
<p>The Fray? Really dude? You’re gonna need to get really hardcore if you wanna scare them. Load these bands into your playlist: The Dillinger Escape Plan, Death, Strapping Young Lad, World Under Blood, In Flames, Soilwork, Meshuggah. If that doesn’t scare them into thinking you are Lucifer incarnate, nothing will.</p>
<p>Even I was nearly fuming reading this. You need to set some ground rules, dude. Remember, YOU are paying for this dorm too and your roommates rights end where yours begin. The first thing you’re going to want to do is talk to your roommate about this. Tell him he’s going to need to find another place for him and his high school buddies to meet up, because clearly it’s becoming an issue with you and their parents. He can’t be bringing underage kids into a college dorm like that. If he doesn’t stop it, take it to the RA, administration, or whoever has the authority in this situation.</p>
<p>If I’m reading correctly, then they aren’t harassing you? Just judging you? Doesn’t sound too bad. As a third party, this is extremely hilarious to me. </p>
<p>Anyways, talk to the parents. They have the power, and may decide to send their kids elsewhere if you prove to be below their standards. As I understand it, they can only judge you.</p>
<p>I second Ricky93’s advice. You’re paying to live in that room. Go to the RA and say, “These kids and my roommate are bothering me. I pay to live in this dorm, and you need to help me do something about it.” If that’s not effective, go up the chain of command.</p>
<p>If I were in your shoes, I might say stuff in Hebrew to see what they’d do, but that probably would just tick your roommate off and make him escalate stuff.</p>