I have a very awkward and tension built relationship with my roommate. We have a lot of problems, but we talked through them the other day. The other day my boyfriend spent the day with me and she walked in on us having sex. Before we became roommates we agreed on letting my boyfriend come over and spend nights sometimes (usuallyabout one night a week maybe longer like every two weeks) because we live a long way from eachother because I’m in school. the other day she told me she didn’t want him coming over anymore because she didn’t want to walk in on anything she wasn’t supposed to. We talked it out and she agreed to letting him come over. I’ve been nice to her, and allowed her to get away with many things. (She never cleans, she is loud in the room when I’m studying, she stole batteries out of my remote, she would use my stuff, she used my trashcan because she never emptied hers, she would snooze her alarm 6 times before waking up and more) I don’t know what to do now she tweeted (she doesn’t know that I can see her twitter) that she needs to either move out or find a new roommate. Overall I believe I’m a good roommate, I keep my side clean, I clean our bathroom once a week, and I’m nice to her. She only spends about 3 nights a week in the room, or comes home at 4am. I wasn’t expecting her to come back but she did early in the day
Perhaps you can text her whenever you don’t want her to come back for a while. Framed as a request, not a demand.
Text her or the good old tie on the door works.
Walking in on roommates enjoying coitus (or overhearing it accidentally, or interrupting it before it gets going) is as old as dirt. I wouldn’t fret about this too much.
I agree with the above - if you and your boyfriend are spending some quality time together, it might be good policy to let your roommate know so she can steer clear (if she wants).
Also…ignore the tweets. If she wants to find a new roommate or move out, then she can come talk to you like an adult. If you are concerned, you can ask her about it. But if you live in the residence halls any motions she’ll make to move out will have to go through official channels, so you’d find out.
- Remember that above all this is yours and her room…not your boyfriends.
- She does have veto power about who can stay in your all’s room.
- You need to make HER feel comfortable about your BF visiting
- Come up with a method of letting her know if he is there…but on the other hand she should not be prevented from going to her room.
- Consider renting a hotel room when your BF visits
- If you are doing all the above and she still wants to move out, then that is her decision. Don’t respond to tweets or anything.
LOL!
But being serious I would be mad. Just find a secure place to have sex next time.