<p>My roommate normally doesn't stay on campus very long she usually just goes to class then leaves to work. She never even sleeps in the room. Today I didn't see her all day. So I assumed she left. My boyfriend was in my room and we started fooling around. But then suddenly the door flew open. I didn't make eye contact. I quickly covered myself and waited for her to leave. I'm so embarrassed. My boyfriend told me just to text and apologize and then to act like nothing happened when I see her. I texted her and apologized. She said it was fine but I'm totally embarrassed. Any tips on what to do when we are both in the room next time? I know it's going to be awkward. :( </p>
<p>Happens to the best of us, just shoot her a text and apologize. It’s honestly not that big of a deal! It’s only as big of a deal as you make it. More than likely she’s forgotten about it by now. </p>
<p>I thought this was going to be one of those threads where you end the statement unexpectedly - like “My roommate walked in on my boyfriend and I having… a very heated debate about climate change.” Oh well. </p>
<p>If I was in your roommate’s shoes, I’d probably just think “whoops” and walk out as quickly as possible. It’s not likely to be something that’ll bother her for any extended period of time. I think everything’s gonna be alright, lol. 
You aren’t the first nor the last to have something like this happen to you. </p>
<p>Yeah except she didn’t walk out right away!! Lol she went to her desk grabbed her books then left. </p>
<p>@moonlightpath LOL, well she needed her books! If she had a class or something, it isn’t like she’s gonna just forget about getting her books. I think that only further shows how little she actually cared. (If she was truly petrified, she’d run out or something.) You’ll be alright. </p>
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Pun intended? </p>
<p>Pun very much intended. </p>
<p>Not a big deal. If she was around like a regular roommate, using your shared room should NOT be an option. But when someone is hardly there, it starts feeling like your own private space. What ever happened to the tie on the doorknob anyways, or am I dating myself LOL</p>
<p>As for what to do next time you are together in the room? I’d find a cute little something to give her to break the ice</p>
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<p>Did you really just expect her to leave without her books? And do what? Just wander the streets, thinking about what just happened?</p>
<p>Relax. You said you’re sorry. There’s nothing else you can do. Next time ask when she’s coming back. Don’t just assume.</p>
<p>I didn’t even expect her to come back to the room at all. It happened during her class time. Plus I didn’t see her at all today until she came in. </p>
<p>I told my boyfriend I might avoid her but he sad not to because thats rude. He has a point but I just feel like I need a week or so before I can face her again. </p>
<p>Just tell her you’re sorry and next time you’ll either text her or put a sock on the door. Accept any ribbing she gives you and move on with your life.</p>
<p>Sex is a thing that happens. It’s quite natural. I’m sure she’s not a stranger to it. There’s no need to make it into an issue. Avoiding her is going to do nothing but make it into more of an issue. </p>
<p>So basically act like it didn’t happen? Someone above suggested getting her something. I think thats a good idea.</p>
<p>Getting her something? Why? That sounds bizarre to me. Not everything calls for an “apology gift.” She would probably feel awkward taking a gift from you as an apology for her walking in on you and your boyfriend. </p>
<p>Act like it didn’t happen. You two share living space, and you don’t need to apologize for doing the kinds of things that people do in the places that they live. </p>
<p>No gift! This is completely silly. How about just telling how embarrassed you are and how awkward you feel face to face. Then ask for suggestion that you two can come up with to let each other know what’s up in the room so neither one of you has to deal with that issue again.</p>
<p>I’m sure when she is about to open the door she probably will make more noise to give you a chance to cover up quickly. LOL.</p>
<p>This happened to me before being the one that walked in on my roommate and her bf. I think her bf was more embarrassed than she was. I kept my head down and basically grabbed my books and apologized. Yes, I apologized although my roommate could have sent me a heads up text but it’s fine. The next time I saw her she didn’t even mention it and we moved on. I mean these things happen, it’s college after all. Don’t be embarrassed to be in your own room and using it. If she said it was fine then leave it at that. Don’t mention it when you see her again unless she brings it up and wants to discuss it with you and next time just to be extra safe send her a text warning her. </p>
<p>I don’t really see the point in apologizing here. What you did is perfectly normal, and besides, most colleges don’t make it very easy to do these sorts of things. You’re kinda forced to do what you gotta do… </p>
<p>I suppose to lessen the awkwardness, you could just joke around about it with her. She will likely understand. Just don’t make too big of a deal about it… or else you end up making it a big deal.</p>
<p>I think I’m just not going to say anything. I already apologized over text. She said it was fine. If she acts like it really bothered her then I will talk to her about it. If not then I won’t mention it again.</p>
<p>Honestly, don’t feel toooo bad. You were attempting to “discuss climate change ;-)” with your BF when she was not around…trying not to inconvenience her. Oops! she came home unexpectadly. You did not yell at her or anything.
I would suggest having some sort of signal…Code on your door or a coded text so she knows.</p>
<p>I like the code idea.</p>