So I recently found out who my roommate and suitemates are. I also found out all three of them are rushing while I am not. They move in 5 days before me and I feel like I’ll be left out since I’m not rushing. Has anyone been in this situation? What’s it like living with 3 people who are rushing/in a sorority while you aren’t?
When I was in college I felt very left out when my roommate and suite mates all rushed and pledged and I didn’t. It didn’t help that only 2 girls on our floor didn’t rush. It made for a hard freshman year. Hopefully you will have more people on your flor not rushing you can be friends with too.
Also just because they are rushing doesn’t mean you can’t be friends with them. They can still invite you to events if you are interested and overall be part of a larger social network. They might not be the people you become the closest friends with and you might feel left out, but you will just have to find other people with similar interests.
Don’t know if this has changed, but it used to be that the girls who were rushing did not live in their “permanent” dorm rooms during rush; they were randomly assigned to a specific dorm for rush period. If that’s still the case, they may not be spending much time together before official move-in. Plus, it’s likely that with three, they’ll end up in at least two different sororities.
There will be lots of new people to meet in your dorm, so be sure to attend the initial hall meetings and go to the icebreaker/social type events. It’s not unusual to be friendly with your suitemates and closer friends with other people, whether or not rushing is involved, so don’t worry.
The other 3 suitemates in my D’s suite freshman year rushed and she did not. One girl kind of moved on the next year - D roomed with other 2 rest of her time at USC. There will be opportunities on move-in to get to know other people in your dorm and then in your classes. Please don’t go into college with expectation that roommates will be your best or only friends. Most likely won’t be true and your new best friends are there somewhere - don’t put so much pressure on yourself for it to be your roommates. Be positive that if you do click with roommates maybe they’ll introduce you to some people they’ve met through rush (and they might not all get bids.)
Only 33% of the women at SC are in sororities. There will be plenty of others who will be in the same boat you are.
Some girls drop out of rush because they don’t get asked back to the sororities they like.