My social life is absolutely pathetic.

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<p>It is 8:26 p.m. and everyone else in my building is getting ready to go out. I'm sitting alone in the study lounge. Granted, it's the end of the semester and I have a ton of work to do, but that's not why I'm here. I'm here because I couldn't find a single thing to do tonight. Everyone who I usually hang out with decided to get together and not invite me. I have a ton of acquaintances, but, I realized tonight, that after nearly my entire first semester of college, I have not made a single real friend. And that bugs me. A lot. I'm a fun person. I'm a well-liked person. I can't figure out why I just don't fit in here.</p>

<p>But that's not the point of this post. The point is that I feel utterly ridiculous. Is there anyone else, in the same boat as me, who doesn't deserve to be breathing right now out of complete social awkwardness?</p>

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<p>I’ve been out of high school for 1.5 years and I haven’t really made any new, good friends since I graduated. You ain’t alone. I have a fair amount of acquaintances and am trying to develop those friendships further.</p>

<p>I don’t think I don’t deserve to be breathing (although last night I certainly wanted to, but not for social awkwardness), and you shouldn’t either. My advice? After one of your classes, if you’re talking to an acquaintance just say something like “Man I’m hungry, wanna go get something to eat?” Hell you don’t have to be that hungry, but it’s a good excuse. If you have acquaintances who you’d like to get to know better, before the semester ends just ask for their number b/c you’d like to keep in contact.</p>

<p>But yeah, just know you’re not alone. This marks the umpteenth Friday in a row where I haven’t hung out with anybody. I’ll thankfully be breaking this lonely streak tomorrow by getting horrifyingly drunk with a couple good friends, but yeah.</p>

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<p>just be happy you can even say you have a social life</p>

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<p>I feel the same way, but I’ve been wasting my life for the last year and a half with the same exact person. I wouldn’t say that you’re alone, because there are a lot of people in your position.</p>

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<p>i thought i was the only one dealing with that type of situation because all my other friends that are in different colleges tell me how they have made a lot of good friends and are always out having fun. im already almost done with the first semester and have not made a single good friend… it really sux but i keep my head up and maybe next semester i’ll meet new ppl who i can actually become friends with</p>

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<p>here’s my story (ive posted it here before). its a long read but im probably the saddest case on CC. maybe in any college</p>

<p>basically i was expecting a typical dorm where, you know, theres 2 people per room, everyone leaves doors open, meet your floor, etc. boy was i wrong</p>

<p>2 of the 3 res halls on our campus are actually in the main campus and have traditional dorms. my dorm, the 3rd, is a suite style (used to be apartments, kind of like a motel) dorm 10 minutes off campus. they said before i got here that its antisocail because suitemates just talk between themselves, but some people said “its only like that if you make it so”</p>

<p>well, barely anyone here ever has their door open. when people pass you, they dont greet you. i give them a little smile when i walk past but get no response. we seriously havent even met the people next door to us. sometimes the guy next door will be opening his door as i walk past, and he just opens it them slams it shut.</p>

<p>my actual roommate is rarely here, and when he is, we’re in the same room and dont even talk.</p>

<p>theres 2 guys in the other room. one is an asian guy who knows someone downstairs from HS and hes always with him. the other is indian and ive gotten to know him pretty well. he has a large indian group since indians can always find each other.</p>

<p>we also live WITH the RA. he has an attatched single room. this generally results in him telling me to turn down music/tv even if its barely above speaking level. people coming to the room? no siree. i even moved my laptop nad monitor to the living room for people to maybe see and come in. LOL WHAT A JOKE </p>

<p>no one here even watches sports. before a big game i look around the other rooms or the big screen in the lobby. no one is watching it, no windows/doors open, nothing</p>

<p>meanwhile, the 20 people from my high school in the other dorm building have all met new people</p>

<p>it really pains me to see other people hanging out in their rooms with their suitemates, watching tv or playing video games or talking or whatever, and i have to sit here all alone ALL THE TIME because my roommate is never here, and the 2 other guys always leave. now im pretty introverted and dont really like having to be around people all the time, and i like to be by myself, but i like to at least talk to people and stuff. i honestly think that the flying spaghetti monster doesnt want me to have friends</p>

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<p>If you find yourself alone doing nothing, go to gym and work out. At least you’re not wasting your time and you get healthier and fitter</p>

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<p>Try and join a sorority next semester. If you’re “fun” and “well-liked” like you say, you should probably get a bid somewhere, depending on how hard it is to get one at your school.</p>