Nearly two months in and I still have no friends

<p>Really didn't wanna make another one of "these" topics but I just have nothin better to do. It's homecoming today and I'm sitting here on the comp writing on an online message board and playing Starcraft 2. It's really making me feel like I'm the biggest nerd ever lol.</p>

<p>I made an attempt to make friends, the first week here I would attend all the events, make sure to sit with someone random at the cafe and say what up, and talk to everyone at class. However at the events everyone already had their own crew, at the cafe I would meet some people but never see them again, and in class no one's really interested in making friends. They're more interested in doing work. </p>

<p>I met one dude that I was real chill with the first week and we went to a concert together. I thought he was cool but for some reason after that whenever I would call him he would never wanna chill. The worst part about this whole predicament is that I have the most anti-social dorm. No one ever keeps their doors open even on the first day and no one is friends on our floor. And my roommate already has his high school friends so we never chill.</p>

<p>I went to a few events while here but it was awkward cuz I'm just that dude sitting by himself while everyone else is with their friends. I've pretty much gave up on trying to make friends and just accepted that I would be friendless for the remainder of the time I'm here. It sucks too cuz in high school I would go to parties every weekend and when I hear my friends' stories of college they sound amazing.</p>

<p>Just ranting here cuz I ain't got **** to do. Felt like getting my feelings into writing, ya know. Anyway, comments appreciated.</p>

<p>If you’re rejection-sensitive, forums are actually the easiest way to meet people/know them. If one of your classes has a forum, then make a post there asking for people to collaborate with/people who might be willing to have friends.</p>

<p>If you don’t mind being rejected, then asking people head-on is probably best. Unfortunately I’m not that type of person (i know it would be better for me in the long run)</p>

<p>Anyways, lots of people suggest clubs. Clubs might work for some people (especially the clubs that are more about extended contact/making friends rather than a certain common interest), but in many cases people will already have their cliques in a club and will be more interested in talking to each other than to you. I think church clubs are one of the best clubs for making close friends since they seem to value friendships more than other clubs (but I can’t join those since I’m atheist). I tried a starcraft club but it’s really hard to talk to people there (plus i’m not sure if hardcore computer gamers are the best people to talk to).</p>

<p>What you should do is get to be friends with your RA. Besides being able to chill with them, if you do something stupid they probably wont write you up. Go hang out in the study room more or the library when you are studying. Everyone else will say to join a club. Thats cool. You could just go out and walk around. You can go to another dorm and there might be some cooler people there.</p>

<p>Join a club. Or an intramural sport. I didn’t find my group of friends till I did that.</p>

<p>don’t worry you will make friends eventually. i made a small group of close friends and then i only had about 3 or 4 friends all my freshman year. somehow it just started expanding more and more rapidly. you never stop making friends in college. but i have to stress JOIN CLUBS! that’s what helped me. i am in the juggling club and we are all good friends. almost all my close friends juggle and it’s awesome. go to a bunch of clubs and they will usually have partys or socials and you can meet more people there.</p>