<p>I think University of Delaware is a good fit for me, but it turns out that my best friend has (independently) decided to attend there.</p>
<p>We won't be rooming together and we both understand the importance of branching out and making new friends. </p>
<p>However, I'm worried that going to same college and forming different social circles will weaken our friendship (more so than simply going to different schools). Plus, we both will be in the honors program and living in the same building.</p>
<p>SO HERE IS THE QUESTION:</p>
<p>Should I just go to Delaware with my best friend and hope for the best?</p>
<p>Or should I go with the fresh start (Indiana or Temple), two schools that I like very much, just not quite as much as UD?</p>
<p>I would GREATLY appreciate any feedback. Thank You!</p>
<p>I would go elsewhere, but I doubt being on campus and having different social circles will ruin you relansonship.
For example me and my elementary school best friend hang in different circles in hs but we are still really close</p>
<p>You said that you “think” that the school is a good fit, is that because your bff is going there? At the end of the day, you have to think about what’s best for you. I go to high school in Kansas. if I wanted what was best for my friendships I would be going to 1 of the colleges here, but no. I want something more that’s better for myself. If the friendship can survive separation, then its for sure one for a lifetime. Think about your future first, then everything else second.</p>
<p>Don’t give up on a college you think is your match just because your friend goes there! Just like sophisticatedlc said, future first, everything else second! GL!</p>
<p>I agree that if Delaware is your genuine first choice, you should go there, and not go elsewhere simply because your BF has also decided to go to Delaware. It’s a big enough school that you will be able to meet other people. Just make sure that the two of you don’t become so dependent on each other that you don’t branch out.</p>
<p>UDel has 16,000 undergraduates. Many people will be going there along with friends and acquaintances from high school, but they will quickly find their own niche. I don’t think you need to be concerned. You’re not going to college “with” your friend; you’re going to the same college as your friend. As long as you keep that distinction in mind, you should be fine. But question your motives as to why you are really picking UDel. Is it your favorite because of programs, overall environment, etc.? Or is it your favorite because you perceive it to be comfortable and familiar? Will you still like it if your high school friendship founders?</p>
<p>You should still go to Delaware. You will be surprised at how little the two of you will actually run into each other. You probably want to have a discussion between the two of you about the changes that will be occurring in your relationship, so that everything is out in the open.</p>
<p>Go to Delaware for sure. If that is your first choice you shouldn’t sacrifice that simply because you’re worried about a social dynamic with your best friend. I think you should talk to your friend about your concerns and figure out a way to remain great friends, while being able to branch out. It’s true, hanging out in different social circles and seeing your friend with other groups will be weird and might alter your friendship, but I don’t think it would be hard to maintain your relationship if that’s what you want.</p>
<p>If you love the school, go there. I don’t think making other friends will hurt your relationship. You might not be as close as you once were, but you can still hang out once in a while and it doesn’t have to be weird (of course, no guarantees that it won’t be!)</p>
<p>But make SURE that the school isn’t a good fit just because your friend’s going there. I have a cousin who went to a certain school (turned down an Ivy!) because his girlfriend was going there. They were broken up before the end of freshman year. Love your school, love your friend, but don’t love your school because you love your friend.</p>
<p>Take your friend out of the equation. You will be upset with yourself down the road if you base your college decision on a friendship rather than the best academic/financial fit for you. Don’t know how friendships become weaker the more you see them anyway.</p>