<p>I am a female sophomore who has been unlucky in finding romance. I am not sure if it's because I am picky or because I am always going for guys 'out of my league.' How do I even know what my league is? </p>
<p>I want to find someone who is intelligent, motivated, funny, and takes care of himself (good grooming, hygiene, and health/fitness habits.) I don't think that is too hard? I tend to like the guys who are fit, well-mannered, and well read (well traveled +) but everytime I finally gathered enough courage to ask them out, I always get rejected (3/3 times). I'm starting to think guys hate girls who take initiative. Though definitely not perfect, I study, read, and exercise. Maybe it's my mind set? Or my personality? Or my looks?</p>
<p>Can you guys dispense some advice? :( Thanks.</p>
<p>Hate to sound cliche, but if you’re desperately and purposely looking for guys, you’re making it harder on yourself. You should let him find you, and just live your life meeting new people for the purpose of meeting people/making friends, not making boyfriends.</p>
<p>You also need to keep in mind that there is no perfect guy. Even someone you meet who may seem perfect will be flawed. 3-6 months into a relationship, you’ll find that the guy who has your ideal traits will have some not-so-ideal traits. That does not mean to lower your standards – no, definitely not! But just keep in mind that people can surprise you.</p>
<p>And trust me, once you stop desperately looking for the ideal guy, someone will drop into your life soon enough. And if anything, I hear that guys really like girls who take initiative lol. Kudos to you! I’d never have the balls to ask a guy out.</p>
<p>Speaking as a guy, I’d say just be yourself and you’ll find someone right for you. You don’t seem too bad at all, and in my mind, personality beats looks any day. Each guy is different, but I personally like girls who can take initiative.</p>
<p>Guys definitely appreciate girls who take the initiative. It takes the pressure off of us sometimes. If you come on too strong, it may be a turn-off, though. But just be yourself and guys will come to you! It’s times when you’re least expecting it and not looking for it that love comes. Good luck!</p>
<p>A lot of times it happens when you least expect it! Most likely, you won’t find the guy of your dreams (someone interesting and who you respect) at a frat party. It took me a while to realize that. I wasn’t finding ANYONE I liked or thought was worthy of being in a relationship with for basically my entire freshman year, and I was starting to give up hope. I’m not currently in a relationship because of some unlucky circumstances, but I met a guy I actually really liked through a friend at a date party, when I was going with someone else! Things happen–keep meeting people, and something might turn up.</p>