<p>Im in my freshman year of college, and I like my school and my major and friends, etc I have friends but it never seems like I know how to get a boyfriend so many people are dating somebody, but I fee like no guys like me (Im a girl btw) and I dont know why how do most people even start dating? I dont even know never had a boyfriend, and it seems like guys dont just go around just asking girls out like I wish they would. Any advice?</p>
<p>no this is not a troll post, I have another account but just didn't wanna post this under that one ok</p>
<p>Look, it’s okay to be single. I’ve been single my entire life, though it might be nice to get a boyfriend. Don’t be on the lookout for a relationship because anything that comes of that is going to be bad and not end well. </p>
<p>Methods of dating vary from person to person. I know people here that became bf/gf through the traditional means of asking out. I know another couple that is still unofficial, (never asked each other out, don’t call each other boyfriend/girlfriend) but they act like a couple. But most people are single, and THAT’S OKAY. It’s okay to be single. Be confident in yourself. You don’t need a boyfriend. You may want one, but trust me, it’s okay. And when guys see that you’re confident in yourself, they’ll be more attracted to you.</p>
<p>But don’t go looking for a guy. Don’t push yourself to get a boyfriend. Enjoy your singleness. It’s a blessing, not a curse.</p>
<p>In my opinion, colleges in general arent the best for finding a boyfriend (or a girlfriend) Most everyone is young and only wanting to hookup and just have fun. I think its the place to definitely meet different people and cultivate life long friendships. But as for finding a future spouse…not so much. </p>
<p>From my experience, All my boyfriends (only 3) have ALL stemmed from friendships first. So make friends and if a romantic connection comes about all the better. Those who I dated (but didnt’ consider my bf) that started out with them asking me out dwindled fast. The best relationships have a strong foundation of friendship. </p>
<p>So ultimately, my advice is to make friends and if something happens it happens!</p>
<p>^I disagree. College is imo probably the best place, or at least one of them, to find a significant other.
You will rarely ever have thousands of people who are similar in age and intellectual ability around you, many of whom are single and looking to find a significant other themselves. </p>
<p>But it is true that I think you should make friends first! Good luck to you. :)</p>
<p>I do go and socialize somewhat, but people keep asking me why I don’t have someone (like parents and other family members ask and make it seem like there’s something wrong with me).</p>
<p>There’s nothing wrong with you. Maybe your parents and family members think that it’s normal for us to all have boyfriends or girlfriends at this age since… well, it seems like the norm in the US (I can’t say for other countries, but I wouldn’t be surprised). </p>
<p>Don’t rush yourself. Make some friends, get to know them well, and things will fall into place. :)</p>
<p>I get asked why I don’t have a boyfriend yet and to be honest, it’s because I’m not looking for one at the moment. I’m so preoccupied with a lot of other things that I really don’t have time for a relationship. Yeah, it would be cool, but remember that relationships take time and effort from both sides of the party.</p>
<p>I also agree with HonorsCentaur: “College is imo probably the best place, or at least one of them, to find a significant other.” Don’t jump into relationships when you’re not comfortable, though! Get to know people, perhaps especially in your department. Maybe you won’t start dating until you’re a senior, but you’ll know the person really well. I personally think that beats a one month relationship.</p>
<p>It’s honestly really really easy to get a boyfriend if you want one. As ridiculous as it sounds, just go out there and be really outgoing and approachable. Just have confidence that you look good, and that you are smart, talented and a catch. People will always be attracted to that kind of person.</p>
<p>I agree with FdSciGirl, college isn’t the best place to meet an SO. Most people are too into the hookup culture to ever consider actually being committed to another person.</p>
<p>In our culture, men are the ones expected to do the approaching. </p>
<p>Look approachable, and don’t look too busy. </p>
<p>Here are things women do that make me not want to approach them at that moment, so if you are looking to be approached at that moment, do the opposite.</p>
<ol>
<li>Listening to their ipod with earphones</li>
<li>Texting/using their cell phone</li>
<li>Walking quickly in a hurry</li>
<li>Wearing sunglasses</li>
<li>Looking negative, stressed, intimidating</li>
<li>Studying/reading.</li>
</ol>