<p>Okay, my situation is as follows: I got into my dream school and am negotiating financial aid [edit: merit scholarship, not need] with them right now. If all goes well, I will be attending said school for approximately $20K per year. </p>
<p>My mom said that we should split that payment; that is, my parents pay about $16,000/yr and I pay about $4,000/yr. This sounded fine by me - I understand that I should be contributing. </p>
<p>However, then we started talking about outside scholarships. In my opinion, if I get $4,000 in outside scholarships (national merit, local scholarship essay contests, etc.), this money would cover my $4,000 contribution. This is where the disagreement starts; my mom thinks that the scholarship money should not count toward my contribution and that, even if I earned $4,000 in scholarships, I would still owe her $4,000 per year.</p>
<p>In my opinion, I am earning those scholarships myself, so they should count toward my contribution. In her opinion, those scholarships reduce the cost of attendance ($4,000 in scholarships means the school is now $16,000), and that of the remaining money the school costs, I still owe $4,000.</p>
<p>I would appreciate it if someone would either offer some perspective on my mom's side of the argument, or help me come up with further ways to convince her.</p>