<p>Would love some positive encouragement right now. Things are going terribly for me at the moment. My girlfriend just dumped me; my parents just initiated divorce proceedings; I have no money; I'm working a ****ty job to make money to help cover my expenses; I've failed four classes in the past year because I haven't had the time to devote to them.</p>
<p>Someone tell me that things will get better? I'm sure they will, it is just tough right now.</p>
<p>If you do not have the time to devote to classes than perhaps you should just take a year off to build up the funds. Since you don’t sound like you like your current job, always be on the look out for a possible change. Also, while I don’t know much about the emotional toils of divorce, I bet both your parents are going to be happier. This kind of thing can be so much worse emotionally if they try to fix something that is definitely broken.</p>
<p>Best of luck to you, hope things start looking up.</p>
<p>I guess what makes it tough is that my girlfriend was one of the only things that made everything seem ok. Things have been terrible lately, but every day I knew I could look forward to spending time with my girlfriend. Now that is gone and I don’t know what to do. I literally don’t know if I’ll even bother getting out of bed tomorrow. The one positive in my life is now gone. </p>
<p>Is it normal to feel this way when you get dumped? I’ve been fortunate so far; I’ve never been on this side of a relationship when it ends. Doesn’t make it any easier though.</p>
<p>It is pretty natural when it comes as such a surprise. If one person in the relationship is not happy, they really should talk to the other to try and resolve issues, but unfortunately that doesn’t always happen. You should try and hang out with friends and work more to try and keep your mind on other things. That can work really well sometimes.</p>
<p>I know how you feel. I was separated with my grades slipping last year and money was very tight. One thing that helped me was music. If you’re a rock fan, listen to Alter Bridge, if you’re a rap fan listen to T.I. They have lots of encouraging songs</p>
<p>have you applied for financial aid? Also i think that if you are struggling maybe you should file for a private loan and back off the work hours. Only do these two things if you are committed to finishing your degree.</p>
<p>Let me know how your life is compared to an HIV-positive Darfur war orphan and then I’ll give you some positive encouragement. </p>
<p>No but seriously you’re suffering from depression and you really should talk to a therapist about it. This:</p>
<p>"I literally don’t know if I’ll even bother getting out of bed tomorrow. The one positive in my life is now gone. "</p>
<p>= depression. Go get the help you need to be a successful person.</p>
<p>Parent here, and yes, I was dumped once or twice. Almost everyone has been. What you’re feeling is completely normal, so at least stop worrying about that. </p>
<p>If you’ve never been through it before, it can feel like the end of the world. You don’t have the experience yet to know that it’s not. It sucks, for sure. You put one foot in front of the other for a while, do what you gotta do, be where you gotta be. Then one day in the not TOO distant future, you notice that you feel just a little better. I know you don’t believe this, so you just have to trust me: There IS life after a breakup. There is. You’re going to feel better.</p>
<p>Where it can get a little dicey is in that period before things start to get better. Don’t do anything stupid. Don’t go on an alcohol binge. Don’t join the Army. Don’t quit school. Don’t get a rebound girlfriend. It’s hard but true: the sooner you allow yourself to feel the grief, the sooner you will begin to get through it. Numbing yourself only prolongs the thing.</p>
<p>One thing that has always helped me when I’m feeling horrible about something in my own life is to get involved in someone else’s, specifically some kind of volunteer work. Because here’s another true thing: if you’re helping someone else with a need they have, it’s hard to stay focused on your own problems. It lifts you out of yourself, and makes you feel better about yourself. Try it.</p>
<p>If after a week or two, you’re not feeling any better at all, drop by the counselling center. They are well equipped to help you get over the hump.</p>
<p>You ARE going to feel better.</p>
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<p>Why did you guys break up? How long did you date her for? </p>
<p>Are you going to have to see her every day?</p>
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<p>Of course. Especially the first time you get dumped.</p>
<p>I still feel lousy. This sucks.</p>
<p>Have you tried masturbating?</p>
<p>How are you doing, Cuse?</p>
<p>I was dumped my my girlfriend of about 2 years a little over a month ago. It was very hard because nobody did anything terrible like cheating, she just was not happy with the long distance. It sucked terribly, and I had the same feelings I think you’re having. I never wanted to leave my bed because it felt so warm and safe. </p>
<p>Its hard when that special person just isn’t there for you anymore. In a good relationship, you will have a significant amount of yourself invested in the other person, so it should hurt when they aren’t a part of your life anymore. That means you have a soul, and aren’t a cold hearted being.</p>
<p>Just as the poster above me said, things will get better, and probably quicker than you think. Time does heal most things. What was most important for me was having good friends who were there for me, there to listen when I needed them to and offer advice when I asked. And soon enough, you’ll start to realize that there were things in the relationship that you weren’t really happy about either, and you’ll understand that maybe breaking up was for the best. </p>
<p>Best of luck with all of the other things, I don’t really know what to say about them but don’t do anything rash, and don’t expect things to get better too quickly…these things take time.</p>
<p>Get back in the ring there cowboy! You will find a new slampiece before long.</p>
<p>Dont be bummed about bad grades, it happens to lots of people. Just pick your professors next time a little better and see if you can get some study aids from friends that have already had their classes.</p>
<p>Dont drop out or anything, if you have to cut back how hard your load is and take some fun classes.</p>