Hey everyone I’m currently a freshman in a medium sized college and while I love the friends that I have made so far their not to big into partying. It’s not that their anti-social it’s just that they don’t want to do anything that goes past 10:00,even on the weekends. Some of my friends go home most or every weekend as well so I don’t even get a chance to see them during the weekend at all. The dorms aren’t much of a help either due to the fact that most of the people on my floor are very introverted and would rather keep to themselves. Sure I’ve talked to them but we have never become more than acquaintances. So I’ve basically had to make friends out of classes I have and the first week freshman events they do here. That being said I don’t have a shortage of friends. I don’t find myself eating alone unless I’m studying or doing homework and I also don’t just sit in my dorm room all day with nothing to do. I have a group off freshman/sophomores that I spend most of time with and I also hang out with a group of seniors as well. It’s just that the friends I have made don’t have much of an interest in partying and that was one of the things I was most excited about for college. I still plan on being friends with them but it would be nice to have a group where on Friday and Saturday nights we all just go and party or chill and unwind from a tough week of school. Its only been two months into my freshman year but I hear that after two months people just settle into their groups and are less willing to accept new people.Is it already to late to be part of another group? Also if you guys have any tips on how to meet new people they would be much appreciated. Sorry for the long post I just needed to get this off my chest.
Rush a frat next semester
I was thinking the same thing…go Greek. You won’t have a shortage of things to do. Typically it also involves opportunities for parties and socials.
People go to college to get a degree. If you party past 10 during the week, that is a risk factor for doing well. Also, your freshman /sophomore friends are underage and may not want to get caught with alcohol.
@“Dr._Pepper” The best way to handle this is to stay in touch with the people you meet at parties. Ask them what their plans are and then you can meet up with them every weekend. Now, I’d stick to partying only on the weekends to keep a balanced life or work and play IMO. On an extra note, avoid Greek life unless if you can handle the extra responsibilities that come with it. I’m currently an independent and I have more time to myself, but it’s all about what you want to do in college.
Furthermore, underage drinking is obviously risky and illegal at this point in your life. Now, I’m not telling you to drink at all, but just be safe, smart, & responsible if you choose to party.
Go stand outside the dean’s office. Note the students that are coming out of the office that are crying or otherwise upset. These are probably the ones who like to party and have now been asked to remove themselves from the college. They know who likes to party.
Obviously I’m joking with the above but college is about learning and acquiring knowledge. You can still have fun but don’t loose sight of your primary purpose for being there.
Don’t be one of those people who write here saying that they have been academically dismissed and are trying to appeal…the ones who didn’t take studying seriously, and then did not do well the first semester…and then didn’t change anything and did poorly the second semester.
OP, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you wanting a group of friends that enjoy partying on weekends. Ignore the posts that are suggesting your grades will necessarily suffer. Join a frat or other group that includes some partying. Try to keep it to weekends and an occasional Wed or Thur and prioritize school work. My D loves dancing and was glad to join her business frat to have friends who like to go out and party. She passes on parties when she has too much work but has found a good balance. College and life is about balance.
You just keep doing what you are doing. Very soon, you will find that those early friend groups are probably going to morph, dissolve, and coalesce into different friend groups. You are obviously doing things right. The people who are really going to be your friends will become apparent soon enough. Even then, it’s not going to be stagnant. My D is a junior and found a solid group of friends in her first year, but in sophomore year, there were new people she started being friendly with. Now, more than half her group is studying abroad. She said at first it was a little unsettling, but she is totally fine with it because, unsurprisingly, she’s getting to know a bunch of people she didn’t know so well before. It turns out that one of those people is doing the same study abroad program as her in January, and now she will be hanging out with a friend for a few months.
Making friends is a life-long thing. There will be a few people in your life, apart from family, whom you will become very close to. If you are lucky, you will remain friends with them forever. My best friends are still three women I met when I was about 23 years old, more than 30 years ago. Remember that you don’t need to be friends with a hundred people. You just need a few friends you are comfortable with, and the rest is icing on the cake.
I’m in November of my freshman year and while I’ve met a lot of great people so far, I would still like to get to know more. Most people simply just say “put yourself out there” and while I’m willing to do that I’m not really sure how. As I said before its the beginning of November so its been a little over two months that I have been here, so that first week/month “magic” that makes everyone willing to talk because everyone needs friends, is long gone. What were somethings that you guys did to put yourself out there and allowed you to meet new people?