<p>This is my first post here on CC, so I'll try to make it brief.</p>
<p>The guys on my floor that I hung out with in the fall semester dont really party or go out on the weekends at all. I like them, but they just dont fit with my lifestyle. I'm an engineer, so in my major sometimes its hard to find people who like to party. I know people who party and I see some of them at the school clubs that I go to, but how can I be part of their circle of friends without forcing myself in? </p>
<p>I feel terrible trying to weasle my way in to their group of friends, and even though I know them I just feel like everyone already has their close group of friends. I feel like I'm always the one finding out about parties from these two guys that I know, but I want to be the one who knows about them first hand, without having to follow a group of people to someone's house (it feels wierd). </p>
<p>Thanks for any advice, I really appreciate it!</p>
<p>I see a lot of posts on here about how people are concerned about making friends because they feel that everyone already has their “core group” of friends…whatever that really means. Sure, most people have their closer friends, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t open to meeting new people and making new friends. If you keep seeing some of the same people at different places that you go to, odds are you have some similar interests. Just casually start conversations with people and see where they go. Social networking can help quite a bit in finding events that would follow your interests. </p>
<p>Get online and find some cool stuff going on like concerts, club events etc, and mention them during casual conversation with people. Odds are, there are a lot of other people feeling the same way as you, and want to make friends and find cool events to go to. It really comes down to having an outgoing attitude, and taking control of the situation. It comes more naturally to some than it does to others, but anyone’s capable of it with the right initiative.</p>
<p>You’re right that a good portion of engineering majors aren’t the “outgoing, party type,” but I’ve known some engineers that could probably drink 9/10 of the population under the table…lol</p>
<p>Thanks, I’m just always self-concious that I’m either imposing or not wanted in someone elses group of friends. I guess my best strategy is to get involved and be as outgoing as I was during the first week of school.</p>
<p>I’m at Delaware. I don’t know how everyone else does it, but theres always a group of like 10 people heading to a party or I hear people with music in someone’s dorm room. Idk if I need to be more assertive, but I try to ask questions without imposing or inviting myself, hoping that they would say, “yeah were going to play pong in <insert name=”">'s room, you should join us." lol. I’ve always been kind of shy but in past years I feel like I’ve been as outgoing as I possibly can.</insert></p>
<p>Damn I’m at a UC, I know what u mean man, i try to always invite ppl when I’m doing stuff with my friends but I feel like noone really reciprocates</p>
<p>@abcd3f3 I’m friends with this one guy, but he only hears about parties from other people. He seems to know a lot of girls, but he’s always monotone and non-energetic, how does he do it?? Maybe I’m not friends with enough girls, I guess it makes sense that no one’s gonna invite a buch of dudes to a party.</p>
<p>I feel like if I ever do meet up with someone to do something, its because there’s girls that they’re with, not like they started something and invited girls to join in.</p>
<p>I know the feeling in terms of kids in engineering not wanting to go out. I was lucky enough to find a close group of engineering friends that aren’t totally socially awkward.</p>
<p>I heavily recommend that you rush and pledge a fraternity next semester.</p>
<p>I don’t think that i’m going to have any time to pledge sophmore year, and even then theres no guarantee that i’ll make good friends within the frat.</p>
<p>Is there anyone out there who has, gets invited to, or knows about parties first-hand? If so, how did you meet those people? </p>
<p>I’m not trying to force myself to be someone i’m not, or to be the ultra-cool party-all-week-long d0uchebag, but I would really enjoy having a group of friends to have some drinks, socialize, listen to music/dance/play party games/ect. with.</p>
<p>Like over here every Thursday all the frats hold parties, but getting into them is tough haha and I mean u don’t wanna go alone, u wanna go with a group of good Friends and party, my thing is most of the time my friends don’t wanna go! Knowing a lot of girls is definitely the way to get into parties haha, frat ones atleast</p>
<p>I thought about going Greek, but there’s an added expense to doing that isn’t there? It can be like 1k more each quarter apparently! And I’m already am intl student so I don’t wanna spend even more money just to make party friends, I’m counting on hopefully meeting them eventually</p>
<p>haha Abcd3f3 thats exactly my story. None of my friends in my hallway party and some of the frats are only holding private parties to avoid getting kicked off campus lol. I think I need to start going to the dining halls with the people that I want to be friends with instead of the ones that I usually do.</p>
<p>Yeah I’m from Delaware actually. I heard New Zealand is nice, I was thinking of going either there or Austrailia to study abroad junior year. What made you come to the US?</p>
Are u from the US?</p>