<p>I'm not antisocial. I could be considered one of the "prep" girls and I'm constantly poring over social media just like every average teenage girls. I'm an active member in clubs, the band, etc., and I DO have friends. I have the kind that will talk to me in the halls, during class, and text me. I however, never have the chance to hang out or do anything fun due to 1) overprotective tiger mom and 2) studying. </p>
<p>My friends did invite me to places, but after a few "no"'s from me due to those reasons, they have stopped inviting me places and asking me to hang out with them. This has happened to every friend I make and it's getting really upsetting because they like to hang out 24/7 with each other, and I always miss out on their fun sessions. They try to keep me updated but it's not the same... I invite them places when I can (and they usually go), but I can only hang out once in a blue moon. I'm sick of that lump in my stomach when I see my friends post pictures of them hanging out online. I'm sick of being sad and lonely all the time, and most importantly of all, I'm sick of staying home and studying when the weather is so nice outside!!!! I want to go out on runs, play sports, go to the pool like my other friends do, but I'm not allowed to as that cuts into precious "study time" </p>
<p>I feel like this is partially my fault though, because I think I'm conceited and picky. I don't like making friends with Asians or super smart people because they're not my type. They don't like to text or talk at all, would rather spend their free time reading, and they talk about general Asian things that I can't relate to. You could say I'm not a traditional Asian. I'm just a super smart white girl trapped in an Asian's body. </p>
<p>Sorry for the rant, I had to get that out of my system. My friends don't understand because their parents aren't like mine. They always just say "sorry bae:(" or "why don't you tell your parents how you feel?" Well I have talked to my parents before...with disastrous consequences. I just want to know if anyone can relate to me, because I feel so alone in this situation. Please no rude comments, I'm having a hard time already :(</p>
<p>I'm sorry if I offended anyone in this post...I really don't mean to. </p>
<p>I can relate to mostly have non-Asian friends. Although, my parents are less strict and let me hang out with people on weekends as long as I get my stuff done </p>
<p>The first two paragraphs are basically my life. However, I do identify with other Asians as well as non-Asians. Plus, my mom’s lightened up with regard to the whole tiger thing :P</p>
<p>I’m not even Asian, or a girl. But my mom is from Peru, if that counts. Hanging out with teenagers isn’t fun for me., they are dramatic and generally stupid. I’d rather spend my time working (I have had a job at Publix since 7th grade). Saving money is the most rewarding thing there is.</p>
<p>I can relate with you so well. Junior year has been a really stressful year for me, and the time I spend with my friends is decreasing. I used to be able to hang out with my friends every weekend… Now, I’ve been declining most invitations and I barely answer my phone anymore because I’m always busy studying. I live in an area that rains quite frequently, and when it is sunny I’d love to go outside but I’m usually stuck at home. I see my friends posting pictures of them doing fun things on instagram and facebook and it makes me sad thinking that I’m not a part of that anymore. <em>hugs</em> You’re not alone. :(</p>
<p>Maybe this is a girl thing. I’m a guy, and my friends (similarly) have stopped inviting me out because I rarely go along with them. But for me, time spent with friends is pretty much always time wasted.</p>
<p>But I really do feel bad that your parents are tiger parents. I know what it’s like-- mine were like that before. Any time I ask to go out and hang out with friends, they turn it into this whole formal affair and act all serious (or they say no). I got out of that by asking my parents for some freedom, if I could just go downtown sometimes (to the public/ university library) and they didn’t say no. And then from there I gradually spent a lot of time out of home, and then it became easier to hang out with friends if I ever wanted to.</p>
<p>I can relate as a parent of a daughter with a similar plight. She chooses not to hang out and I swear she had no friends. But she doesn’t want to hang out and doesn’t want to communicate with her classmates outside of assignments. This might be viewed by most parents as a blessing, but not in my case when she appears to be weird and geeky. She’s been at this for 11 years with her cohorts and they all know it’s her personality. Hopefully that changes with college. She is absolutely a very happy kid but I am not happy about this self isolation. However, when I pushed her to interact, it gets her upset. So, I’ve backed off.</p>
<p>@picuberoot: pick a college with a circle of students who you can mingle with. If you have a chance to go away for school, you will have the freedom to explore different friends and different social environments. Your parents are doing what they think is best. It isn’t always good but no parent wants to risk the futurw of their children. I hope you blossom in college and become as successful as you wish. Good luck.</p>
<p>I understand what you’re going through. I have friends at school as well but my parents generally don’t allow me to go outside unless it’s for school reason. I don’t really mind though because I typically like staying at home anyways but every once in a while, I do get sad because I see pictures of all my friends hanging out but I wasn’t invited or I couldn’t go because I wasn’t allowed to.</p>