<p>I signed up for a URoomSurf account. I figured it would be a nice way to meet people, and if I ended up with a roommate, so be it. I registered late last night, and this morning I had a message waiting. The girl seems sweet, but we have very little in common. For those unfamiliar with the site, it's sort of like match.com for roommates... you have to fill out a survey about who you are, and another about what you want in a roommate and then get you matched with others by percentage. Apparently, I match what she wants in a roommate by 75% and she matches me by 68%. Not very high when there are others I match with 100%. Meanwhile, on her profile, she calls herself an academic introvert. That's very... not me.</p>
<p>Anyway, the message read that she knew our numbers weren't high, but she read my profile and she looked me up on facebook and she really, really, really, really thinks we should be roommates. And she doesn't talk much so she'd be easy to live with. She doesn't go out and party much, so she'd appreciate it if I introduced her to people. And these are the colors she wants to decorate the room. And she has a television to bring, but not a DVD player, etc... </p>
<p>A little strong, perhaps? I know I shouldn't judge her; I haven't met her and she might actually be a very nice girl, but she doesn't seem like someone I'd want to room with. Even if she was, I wouldn't want to be tied down within 12 hours of joining the website. How to I tell her to back off without hurting her feelings?</p>
<p>Just be polite and message her that you want to see who else is out there while taking advantage of the site. Cause if you don’t respond to her in a certain amount of time then she would probably be really offended.</p>
<p>“I’ll consider it. Thanks for contacting me!”</p>
<p>Very simple. Sort of like when you apply for a job with some giant company like Best Buy and they say “Thank you for submitting your application, we will consider it.” And then they never respond >:(</p>
<p>^ personal experience with Best Buy? I know how you feel :(</p>
<p>Yeah, just tell her that you’ll think about it. But you never know, maybe she might be a great roommate. Unless you’re looking for someone to be BFFs with, I wouldn’t pass the opportunity if she’s quiet and doesn’t like to party – it’ll be like not having someone in the room with you and you don’t have to worry about her stumbling in at 3am and vomiting all over the floor!</p>
<p>i think you should at least meet her. people can come across a lot differently online than they do irl. if you’re still not into rooming with her after meeting her then say you’re not interested.</p>
<p>also, i agree with balto, my mom posted as my older brother when he was looking for roommates. i still don’t know how he explained that one off. i think the roommates probably figured out he and she weren’t the same person lol</p>
<p>If it really is her (=P), just be sure to keep the option open. I have a friend who matched up pretty low with her roommate on their roommate search. They had…some number under 50 (30-something?) percent and decided to go for it anyway and they got along really well and are rooming together next year.</p>
<p>But I guess it doesn’t work out like that for everyone. I’d just say something along the lines of that “thanks for contacting me!” and give at least a few decent sentences so she doesn’t just feel like she’s necessarily getting one of those I’m-not-really-planning-on-getting-back-to-you responses.
Unless you really are sure you’re not getting back to her. (But why not look into her a little more? It can’t hurt.)</p>
<p>Thanks everyone! I sent back a message that I wasn’t totally sure that I was going to the school yet (partially true) and committing to being her roommate wouldn’t be totally fair if I had to back out. I told her I’d let her know once I was 110% sure I would be attending.</p>