<p>So maybe I'm a nerd, not saying its a bad thing I appreciate my love and motivation for school, but I seem to be one of the last people who don't really care for having a "social life". I have never meshed well with high school students so I do things by myself, like shop at the mall, rollerblade and stuff like that. I'm okay not going to parties and I think my junior year should be completely grade oriented and volunteering hence my straight A's in my classes(3 are AP and I'm take 5 classes because one is a healthcare class where I shadow at a hospital for two periods). Anyone else a nerd who doesn't have a social life by choice and instead enjoys their own company?</p>
<p>And I don’t want to start any disagreements I’m just wondering of there is anyone else like this here</p>
<p>you are not a nerd. otherwise you wouldnt be up here posting for opinions. nerds need no opinions from others. thats the thumb rule. </p>
<p>anyways i suggest(since you are not a nerd) you should try and have a social life for yourself. if you dont wanna do that, its not a problem. there are plenty of people who love their own company.</p>
<p>and you are more of an introvert, not nerd. though im not saying introverts dont have a social life.</p>
<p>Neither do I have a social life. I’ve never been able to blend in with any crowd and I pretty much look at society as a reminder that the human race will be screwed over some day. I’m a sophomore and I’m taking 5 AP classes, but that’s a consequence of not having much of a life. In my free time, I study math. If we are going over something in Calculus that I already know, I study Analysis. I have a lot of free time in the mornings at my school. I spend it at the library just studying something. I don’t quite say I am happy, but I am not sad at all either. I’m just satisfied with the way things are. Life’s just a goddamn algorithm until you feel ready to make a change in the world.</p>
<p>I completely understand how you feel. I’m basically obsessed with school and I fear it will destroy me because in the end it can’t really give me what I want-happiness. I have friends I just don’t always engage myself therefore I am not invited to that many parties. I guess I’m okay with that but once I get out of grad school I’m afraid I’ll feel empty. But on the other hand, the people you are supposed to be close to in life will find you no matter how much time you spend holed up in your room studying</p>
<p>i have friends but they are focused in school. naturally i would be the one who studies hard and parties even harder but amount of studying this year leaves me no free time at all. i am okay with that though since i know it will pay off once i get into my dream school.</p>
<p>I wasn’t trying to imply that I was in grad school I’m in hs but i meant that as the extent of my eduction</p>
<p>I dont have too strong of a social life, but it’s more of an indeirect choice. I always try to challenge myself academicaly, and that along with my shyness makes me not go out that often. Alot of times I get mad at myself for not being able to make friends easily and I get a little enviousness when my friends talk about a party they went to, but i dont really blame them for not invitng me. I cant dance, but i wish i did, and its hard for me to learn cause i know ill look foolish when if i try. I dont know, sometimes i feel like school takes away from my overall happiness</p>
<p>You don’t choose it…chances are you’ve given up on finding friends, and forced yourself to become satisfied with the status quo. </p>
<p>Be honest with yourself…sitting at home all day is not what you want to do. You can’t have any REAL fun by yourself, it’s just not possible.</p>
<p>You’re missing out on a lot. The only point in living is to meet other people. Nothing wrong with wanting to be alone, but its nice to have other people around when you want them too.</p>
<p>I guess you can say I have given up on finding good high school friends, and there are specific reasons why that I don’t want to get into. But I know all my hard work will pay off, btw my school is full of drugs, no competition and I’ve been reading about other schools on here that are full of competition, my school definitely isn’t. In my ap classes I am one of the few students that takes the class seriously and actually reads the assigned reading and books. I take school very seriously and I avoid boys(for the most part) and people who party because I don’t want to be around non serious students.</p>
<p>I don’t think I’m missing out on much, high school is full of immaturity at least mine is. And I’m not over exaggerating, trust me. I tried partying my soph year and I realized how much of a loser someone has to be to place themselves in dangerous situations where they can get caught drinking and drugging when they can just wait till they’re old enough(drugs are just disgusting though).</p>
<p>I mean, what is a social life in high school? All it consists of here is getting wasted and doing drugs with friends it seems. Honestly, there are more meaningful ways of spending time. IMO, having a “social life” is way overrated in America…you must have one otherwise you’re a loser. Happiness is all based on perception. If you have a desire to have a social life, but can’t accomplish it, you’ll be disappointed. If you realize you don’t really care, then you’re satisfied. Those who call others losers for not having a social life end up being the losers in the end.</p>
<p>Thank you dblazer I’m glad to know someone else thinks so too:)</p>
<p>“I avoid boys(for the most part) and people who party because I don’t want to be around non serious students.”</p>
<p>You had me until this. I’m a boy, I party, and I have a 4.0 (weighted though…) and I take AP classes. Your problem is you generalize partyers and those who don’t seem serious in school. I take school very seriously, but I like to have fun on the weekends. Not everyone who partys is a mindless idiot who will amount to nothing. Maybe if you weren’t so quick to cast out people who enjoy their social lives you would have some friends. You think you are better than everyone else, but you’re just different. I’m not saying everyone has to party, partying is for some and not for others. I don’t consider people without social lives losers either. I think the biggest losers are the stoners who are high in school all day and will amount to nothing. Regardless, you are not better than anyone else because you study hard and get good grades. I live by the cliche work hard, party hard. You should try it sometime.</p>
<p>To add to what dfree said, in my school, there are many students who are in the top 5% of my class who party. Ten students in the Class of 2011 in my school were accepted to UPenn, and many of them party on weekends. One of the smartest and prettiest girls in my school parties with her friends. The current valedictorian in the Class of 2014 here parties on weekends, but she’s twice as smart as I ever will be. This is just a really, really, really small sample of social life in my competitive, SUBURBAN school.</p>
<p>Many top schools have a significant party scene. My ED school, UPenn, has a really good party scene. Columbia probably has a lot of party kids, considering that it’s in New York. On College Confidential, there’s a topic on the Cornell boards specifically dedicated to alcohol and bars. </p>
<p>The biggest losers are those who don’t want to/don’t know how to work as hard as they play. But if there are Ivy league kids who party, then clearly not everyone who parties has no work ethic.</p>
<p>Of course, that doesn’t mean that everyone should party. Do what you like and what you want. If something makes you happy, do it. Just don’t criticize others of their actions like [in</a> here.](<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/high-school-life/1247344-why-would-you-party-during-high-school.html]in”>Why would you party during high school? - High School Life - College Confidential Forums)</p>
<p>Thanks for the backup Excavalier. I didn’t notice that this OP is also the OP of that other thread. I think OP here has an unjustified sense of self-worth. Partying =/= bad grades. Partying often (but not always) = good social life. I know for a fact that our valedictorian from last year partyed frequently, then got into Dartmouth. I don’t care if you (OP) party or if you don’t, but you shouldn’t care if we party or if we don’t either. My school too sends a lot of kids to top schools (I think our average SAT is like an 1850, which is great for a public school) and we also have a great party scene. I want to go to Penn because it has an amazing business school and an amazing social scene. It’s all about how you manage your social life and school, balance is key.</p>
<p>I’m just curious why you drink/smoke weed or whatever. Why in your words do you let loose by drinking instead of more proactive things. You guys seem more level headed then kids at my school whos only concern is to party and get wasted.</p>
<p>And I am biased because I go to a pretty bad school compared to you guys where like I said, even kids in the ap classes don’t give a crap about what’s going on</p>