Not making a ton of friends

<p>you will make friends in class...at the library lots of place other than where you live..give it time. keep making the effort don't wait for them to say hi continue to do what you are doing and soon you will notice the changes.</p>

<p>Just update: my social situation is a lot better... I still don't know a ton of people, but there are a few people I'm close to (hopefully I'll make more friends at parties)</p>

<p>just focus on your studies, friends will come.</p>

<p>Wow, I feel like that right now. It's been one week, and I really haven't made any friends. I don't communicate with people in my housing. Usually I have my door closed. I attempted to keep it open one night so that people don't think I'm reclusive, but no one really stopped by my dorm and said "hi" :(</p>

<p>I cried last night thinking about it. I have a hard time being social unless someone intiates the conversation.</p>

<p>But tomorrow my school is holding an involvement fair so I will try to see if I can make 2 or 3 friends in the few clubs I plan to join.</p>

<p>^I'm in that situation, too, and I did the same thing. At first, I was having a great time and talking to a lot of people. Now it seems like the people in my dorm and that I've met have already made their little groups, and they're fine with just hanging out with them, as whenever I see them, they're always together, and it seems like everyone already has that friend they can call on any time to do stuff with. It's funny how quickly that happens.</p>

<p>And then my roommate and I were getting along great (we still are), and I know it seems odd of me, but I feel left out (and jealous) when she makes impromptu plans to go hang out with people on our floor that I've also met and talk with as well, but I'm not included. I don't know. I've been trying really hard to talk to people and make friends, but it seems like people either aren't interested and would rather stick to the people they've already met. I don't get what I've done wrong, although it could be too early to tell if anything (it's only been two weeks).</p>

<p>I'm an off campus freshman, and, its hard</p>

<p>You have to work twice as hard to make friends than those in dorms are truly lucky.</p>

<p>I'm having a hard time making friends as well. I've been at school for three weeks and have not made one single friend. Pretty bad, but I choose to be a hermit. I get along with my suitemates but they are not my type and I rather be alone than feel awkward with them. I'm waiting for clubs to start.</p>

<p>wow u made me worry now
r u saying that it's pretty hard to get friends in college?</p>

<p>It's key to really make an effort to get out of your room. Relying on others to just stop on by ends up being a bad strategy later on in the year, but leaving your door open is good. If someone is not making efforts to talk to anyone, people usually just assume they WANT to be left alone.</p>

<p>So really just get out there and keep talking. Once you move past the "What's your major/where are you from" sort of conversation, it'll get more interesting. Just don't do anything absurd off the bat that will leave bad impressions. </p>

<p>Take it from me -- I basically started my sophomore year with no friends and had to "rebuild" all over.</p>

<p>I've made a decent amount of friends so far, but none of them are really close or anything. I dunno, I'm sure eventually they'll become closer like friends from high school, it's just a tough adjustment to make.</p>

<p>It's not that hard. In hs, I had few very very close friends. Here, I have tons of friends though some of them are on difficult degrees of friendship. It's different when you live down the hall from someone and see them around..x3 a day rather than hang out with them maybe ...x2 a week at most.</p>

<p>As long as you're social and outgoing, you'll find friends wherever you go. But, it's so easy.... Just be willing to try.</p>

<p>Just don't be that awkward kid who sits kind of far away from you and starts trying to make crappy conversation noting, "Wow, it's so crowded here, isn't it?" and repeating that... Don't be creepy.</p>

<p>I've been here two weeks and still haven't made friends. My roomates are nice, but we haven't really become friends. I know people, but just say hi and then nothing comes from it. You have to keep trying. If you don't work at it, you probably won't make friends. I think it was easier in high school.</p>

<p>I'm mostly making friends through clubs. They're all nice.</p>

<p>I'm waiting for my school's damn clubs to start. I think I missed the fair :/</p>

<p>sleepyman, go on your school's website and check out "Student Activities". If you missed the fair, just drop by the Student Activities office and ask about the clubs there.</p>

<p>Yeah I'll get there eventually, first I need to submit my loan and get a job etc...</p>