<p>So its my first night in my suite, and I can't say I've made any friends... Most of the people I meet, I just say hi, ask them a couple of questions (majors, etc) and we don't continue talking... I'm also not great friends with my roomates (they don't seem like my type) and I'm in a single... Anyone else like this? I hope I will make friends outside my residence hall</p>
<p>I day does not a year make. If you have no friends in a month or two start to worry.</p>
<p>Give yourself some credit and a hard pat on the back. You're talking to people and asking questions and trying to initiate conversation. Keep up the good work. When you're in your single, make sure to keep your door open and make yourself visible. People will be more apt to drop in and introduce themselves. You can do the same when you see a room door open--just give a quick knock, introduce yourself (hi, I'm...... I'm in the single in room ... so feel free to stop by sometime. Or, I'm in the single in room ... and it's kind of tough to meet people when I don't have a roomate.) They'll admire your honesty and it's a good conversation starter. Or, around lunch or dinner time, just knock on a neighbors door and see if they want to join you for a meal. </p>
<p>When you start class, strike up some kind of random conversation with the kid next to you. Keep it light. </p>
<p>Give it a little time. Good luck.</p>
<p>I felt like I had 0 friends after my first day on campus. I don't think I felt like I really had any friends until about a week into school and I had seen that I had hung out with the same people a few times and we started to mesh. Give it some time. You'll be fine.</p>
<p>You gotta give it some time. You will most likely meet people other places sometime. Go to the planned events--they tend to be a great way to meet people. You can't base everything off of a few days.</p>
<p>I'll bet there are tons of different clubs on campus. Get involved in something you're interested in, and talk to the students around you. You'll have at least one thing in common with them.</p>
<p>Come on, get real. It's the end of day ONE. How many friends were you expecting to get after one day? Guess what? You might not have too many after day two either. Don't stress yourself out, find things that you like to enjoy and do them. You'll be fine.</p>
<p>I don't know a single person in dorms that doesn't have a lot of friends. You'll make friends within the first 2 weeks, not necessarily the 1st day.</p>
<p>You have it easy, try being an off campus transfer :D</p>
<p>seriously after one day? you're not going to be BFFs with people after one day. calm down and stop making judgments about who is and isn't "your type", you have to live with these people be friends with them, yeah?</p>
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Totally agree about the off campus thing. You people in dorms don't realize how lucky you are.</p>
<p>It sorta sucks b/c when I talk to people, all we do is introduce each other (like major, residence hall, etc) and that's it... no connection...</p>
<p>It's Friday night. Ask to tag along with your suitemates if they're going out. Knock on an open door on your floor and ask if they know of anything going on. Give it a try. Trust me--no one is looking for a heavy duty conversation on a Friday night. Leave your comfort zone--go right now and see ask somebody what they're doing tonight and if you can come along.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>My best friend is having problems adjusting too. Her roommate is shy and anti-social and doesnt want to go out tonight. I gave her a few suggestions but shes just really upset and wants to party. The only friends shes made are guys and she doesnt feel comfortable going to a party with them. :(</p>
<p>I didn't have many friends in the beginning either. i remember all these outgoing butterflies seemed to have a million friends and i was (mostly) alone. there's hope. just get involved with things and put yourself out there.</p>
<p>Don't worry about it if you don't find an entire posse of friends. In some ways, that might be a good thing as you don't want to be too distracted to study all the time.</p>
<p>Since I'm a commuting transfer, I didn't get a chance to really make friends en masse in a dorm, so I'm making most of my friends in class. And it's a much slower process, but I'm finding that its given me more breathing room and flexibility to go my own pace and get all my studying in at the same time. Whereas in freshman year, I felt like I had to go out with everybody all the time to maintain those friendships. So chin-up, there's a silver lining. :]</p>
<p>Don't worry about not having a ton of friends. In time, you will find a couple of kids that you feel comfortable hanging out with. Many kids prefer to have a couple of close friends over a ton of friends. </p>
<p>Keep putting yourself out there. Go to the library, to the gym, to the coffeehouse, etc. You can even knock on your RA's door and explain to him that you're feeling a bit isolated. They're very good at "breaking the ice" with people. When brought to the RA's attention, sometimes they'll "arrange" for a couple of guys to go do something together and include you in the group. Because it's a Saturday, you might want to talk with the RA about it.</p>
<p>It will all work out in the end. Give it some more time and think about talking with the RA. He can help.</p>
<p>Good luck and let us know how it's going.</p>
<p>Start slowly. I met 3 people today, not 30.</p>
<p>is it easier to make friends after you transfer from a c.c.?</p>
<p>cause i feel that most of the people know each other by their 3rd year?</p>
<p>and since not alot of the juniors live in the dorms,well just the ones that transfered, i had a bit concerned? how do you get to know the other people of your graduating class if they all live apart by the lat two years?</p>
<p>Just introduce yourself to people. And if it seems like you actually have something in common (ie passion for ____), get their phone number and give them yours. There you go, a new friend.</p>