<p>so I literally do not think I like my school/campus. the people that go here are so annoying, and so unfriendly. Like the vibe is really wierd and unfriendly, and there's no school spirit at all either and everyone just does their own thing, the apathy for fellow students is unsettling. I transferred here and i'm my last year so there's no point in transferring, but the environment stresses me out so much. i suppose it could also be from stress due to academics, but i know it's not like that other schools i've been to. The previous school that I was at wasn't like this at all, and the people were nicer even though there was competitive academics there as well. I feel so unmotivated to study because I hate it so much, it's causing me to become depressed. I even had to withdraw and retake some classes during my first year here because of it. These kinds of things really affect me more than other people. It seems better sometimes but then in general I notice it. What could it be, are different schools different in terms of friendliness of students? Am I being overly paranoid? </p>
<p>College is what you make of it.</p>
<p>You’re not being paranoid - schools have their distinct vibes, and perhaps this one is less outgoing and more academic than what you’re used to. That said, I can’t believe that it’s impossible to make friends there – or anywhere, for that matter. It just may be harder. I assume you’ve checked out clubs and organizations? Tried to get together with students after class for coffee/beer? Joined a study group if for no other reason than just to meet people? Maybe look into an intramural sports team? Don’t give up; keep plugging at making overtures to people. A sure way NOT to make friends is not to try… </p>
<p>I did make some friends from a club i’m in, but i don’t see them that much. And it doesn’t help that the overall vibe is like that either. i know it’s what you make of it, but you can’t get far in what you make of it if it’s like that in the first place. another thing is the students often look depressed, aren’t college students supposed to be happier? </p>
<p>Do you live with roommates? How about throwing a party? But even if you live alone, get a couple of 6 packs of beer. Invite people over - classmates, people from the club. Tell them you’ll have the drinks, they bring muchies. Put on music. When they get there, talk about… sports or Gone Girl or South Park, or whatever strikes your fancy that isn’t depressing. </p>
<p>Look, I understand that this school may not be a good fit for you. But you can’t tell me that all the students in this entire college are depressed. There’s got to be a handful of people you can hang out with. Make it a challenge to find them.</p>
<p>It could be that coming in as a transfer is tougher… other students may be more friendly with students they met freshman year and have known longer. Maybe add another club or activity?</p>