Hi I’m a freshman in college 2nd semester and my school is about 2 hrs away from home. The distance isn’t too bad for me but it’s a little hard. The school is in a decent location and i think I like the school in general for the most part. So here’s the issue, I want to start from the beginning. I move in the dorms as a freshman and within the first few weeks I don’t really venture out too much besides talking to the girls on my floor. I end up getting close with these 2 girls, one is my roommate and the other lives a few doors down. I have a few other friends but not really people I would hangout with alone only in groups. So basically I have 2 friends. At first we had so much fun we were always laughing and I was like wow these are really the best friends I’ve ever had in going to grow old with them. fast forward to now, I feel 100% tied down with them. I always have to update them where I am, I’m always being judged, I get back from class or studying and I get asked 500 questions about my whereabouts and things I did. My mom was like this and this is the main reason I wanted to go away for college. I hate being tied down and feel like I’m constantly being babysat. Another thing is that they’re not very nice to me. I’m a sensitive person and rude comments really get to me. But the thing is they’re litteratly all I have and I have a hard time speaking up for myself. It’s hard to make friends randomly at the end of the year and I’m shy anyways so it’s really not possible for me to do this. I have already signed up to live with these people next year. I’ve always wanted to sign up and be in a sorority, and this year I didn’t get the chance to because I missed sign ups. I know it will be an easy outlet for me to make lots of friends and I think I would really like it. I’m planning on doing this next year if I stay then I will have more friends and people to talk to and I’m assuming I will be happier. I am really undecided on whether I should tough it out and continue to go to this university even if I am at risk of being sad a lot but on the other hand could also make a lot of friends and be happier. Next year at school I would no longer live in a dorm with 2 people in one room and community bathroom instead it would be everyone has their own room and bathrooms more apartment style so I would have more space. Another part of me wants to move closer to home and transfer somewhere close. I also do not want to live at home and want to start renting an apartment and possibly get a roommate but I’m not sure if my mom would approve of that and allow me. I also don’t really know what I want to major in and feel as if I’m wasting a lot of money here. I feel like I should decide soon but maybe I can wait til the end of the summer and decide then? I’m really just looking for some input because I don’t have many people to talk to other than my boyfriend who lives at home. Let me know what y’all think about the whole situation please!!
You need different roommates and some new friends. This kind of situation is quite common for freshmen, and it may take a little while to get into a different group. You missed the sign-ups for sororities this year, but in the meantime, I bet other organizations allow people to join any time. Look at the online list of organizations and pick one that sounds as if it might be fun and contact them to find out if you can go to their next meeting. If the first club doesn’t feel right, try another one. If you find a group of friends to have fun with, your feeling about the university will change. I wouldn’t advise having an apartment off campus because it might make you feel too isolated. As for the 500 questions, start practicing answers like, “sorry, I can’t chat right now, have to study” or “it was the same-old same-old, nothing much, can’t really remember,” and give yourself points each time you use them. Try studying at the library or dorm study space if they keep pestering you. Maybe look into the possibility of trading places with someone in a different dorm for next year, if that is allowed.