<p>lmao at the comment: "are you sure its a girl"</p>
<p>Anyway, my friend met a guy on the internet IN ANOTHER COUNTRY and he wasn't psychotic or anything when he came to the US to meet her for the first time. Personally, however, I still find it VERY weird. Then again, I was never into the online chatting thing and I've ALWAYS found it weird to even talk to a person unless we're face-to-face.</p>
<p>Bumping this thread WAY up cause I'm interested in this scenario/situation myself. Interested in someone currently living in Australia but we've never met as a couple or anything since we started chatting online. I know he's real; we have mutual friends. But we never talked when we COULD'VE have, you know? And that bums me out.</p>
<p>Own experience: Met an online friend who I got to know online, but knew was real cause was the best friend of an ex-boyfriend. <em>clears throat</em> It was a international thing (different countries, but same continent) and we met during a summer. Not the greatest meeting and our friendship, such as it was, dissolved afterwards. </p>
<p>So it's true; people do act differently online than they would in person. I know online I'm more open than in person - shy, quiet, timid little girl until/unless I'm comfortable with a person. Then I'm loud and a motor-mouth.</p>
<p><em>sigh</em> </p>
<p>Long-distance relationships suck. And since I'm a-hoping to go to the US... :(</p>
<p>i had several friends who had long-distance relationships. i have to say that such relationships don<code>t really work unless you actually communicate on a steady basis and you plan to meet sometime (not saying that it</code>s the safest thing to do though, unless you<code>re really positive that it isn</code>t some 40 year old child molester). nevertheless, i have heard of long-distance relationships that do work out in the end, but most don`t.</p>
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Here's a related question: do those creepy online pedophiles chase teenage males at all? I mean, there's always a lot of media coverage about creepy old guys stalking and meeting up with teen/pre-teen girls, but I don't think I've ever heard an instance of this happening to a guy. Is this just the media being weird, or does it really (almost) never happen to guys?
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<p>First of all, before you meet her and get to know her in person, don't fool yourself into thinking it's more than it is. Also, you don't know that a mutual attraction will be there and that could be a problem with getting too serious about eachother before you meet.</p>
<p>I had a relationship like this online. We talked on the phone, sent gifts, etc. and ended up meeting several times including staying at eachother's homes for multiple nights (of course, different rooms!). So, it can work. But, a piece of advice, give it up unless you both have had relationships before. Something like this should not be the first for either of you. It's an interesting and fun experience, but it is far less likely to work out than a short-distance relationship, far harder to be close, and you don't get the full experience of being in a relationship.</p>
<p>I'd suggest you try to meet sometime. And, if you don't already, talk to her on the phone and stuff in addition to online.</p>
<p>I am going to say something positive and less scary. </p>
<p>Meet her and as long as you know her well, you should be fine. I mean if you know her school, life, and seen pics. I mean a 40 yr old molester will not spend time to create a complelte profile of a person.
If you seen pics of her, (notice the s), talk to her for a prolong period of time, know where she attend school, know a little about her friends and such, you should be in good shape. </p>
<p>I met 4 girls from online and two of them was out of state and no, I didn't get kidnapped and sold into the porno industry. Nor did I shot and put in a body bag and thrown into the Ohio river. It wasn't anything about relationship or anything that, but we did became friends.
They were pretty nice and we had a jolly good time and lots of fun. </p>
<p>how much could it really hurt? Unless she ask you to meet her in like a creepy place in the middle of no where, you should go and hang out.
And long-distance relationships really do work, unless you guys live on two separate plants or something. </p>
<p>Good luck with that, and remember not everyone online you meet is a molester.</p>
<p>regarding that ny times article - that's really disturbing. i watched part of the interview and the kid still didn't seem to care much. plus he made the most annoying facial expressions and had bad interview skills.</p>
<p>to address the original post, i would just advise you to exercise a lot of caution. don't expect too much. and you certainly shouldnt give up part of the college experience just to please her. most likely you two will go your separate ways.</p>
<p>i read the article. my net's too slow to watch the vid.</p>
<p>he didn't seem to care...but the lure of money and attention...and the fact that they men/women/customers aren't there in person to hurt you, touch you, may make it seem much safer and "legal", you know?</p>
<p>yeah, I watched it, too, but to me it seemed like he had moved on from the past. maybe I misconstrued his loose demeanor. </p>
<p>anyway, the OP is long gone, and probably isn't coming back.</p>
<p>Yeah, but the usage of IM programs and webcams and emails to facilitate relationships only seem to have grown.</p>
<p>Just to warn you, becareful it might be a cop who's trying to be a girl. x] Cops are smarties.</p>
<p>As a mom, I would NEVER EVER let my daughter go meet someone she met ONLY on line</p>
<p>If she REALLY wanted to meet the person, it would be with me and her dad and the dogs and his parents or not at all</p>
<p>I've met a guy in RL that I'd only talked to online... but he was my best friend's close friend that she'd known since elementary school. Otherwise I agree that one should exercise extreme caution.</p>
<p>citygirlsmom: I like the inclusion of the dogs! :D</p>
<p>Hmmm..well, today I'm meeting someone I only got to know through College Confidential. :D Does that make me insane? (I know she's a female; we've talked on the phone, through Yahoo Messenger and I've seen her hi5 profile.)</p>
<p>you can always filter out people on CC with SAT scores!!~</p>
<p>seeking: male with SAT 2050+, 3.8+ gpa. Must have 5 EC's, 1 of which must be music, 1 sport. Must write essay of romantic intentions, which will be scored twice out of 6, then added to obtain a cumulative score out of 12. </p>
<p>like that?</p>
<p>well, it was meant to be a joke but hey, lets do that!!</p>
<p>18 year old cosmopolitan seeking new friends
loves to travel and decent stats (2050 SAT, good ECs)
interested? hit me up at (911) 911-9110</p>
<p><em>laughing</em></p>
<p>19 yrs old chica seeking new friends/online buddies/possible US travel buddies
Must have sense of humor and not spam boards with multiple posts
Must have at least one passion in life, even if it is sleeping :)</p>
<p><em>laughing again</em></p>
<p>o<em>O;;;; Whoa I wonder what country has an area code as 911? o</em>o;;;</p>
<p><em>snickers</em> you guys are awesome. I heart you ALL. </p>
<p>16 year old Asian girl, looking for friends who know who alan rickman is, and whose grammar is directly proportional to their raging hormones. Idiots need not apply. As well as sloppy kissers. They don't need to apply either.</p>