<p>I am no so sure universities are falling over themselves to ensure Pakistanis are being admitted to provide diversity. They barely seem to care enough to lump them in the universal bucket of Asians.</p>
<p>I would rather they have no label at all since most kids can get into a college all on their own without Universities labeling them.</p>
<p>exactly valeas. who would want to live that way? And who even cares?</p>
<p>I don’t think Pakistanis are considered a diversity admit. I think they get stuck competing with all the others labeled “asian,” the most ludicrous catchall category since caucaision.</p>
<p>Oh, gawd, can you just see the divisions here. Again.</p>
<p>@harvest
Are you suggesting schools should revamp diversity policies as such they benefit minorities bc a few of this group dislike the majority?
Srsly? Um, all of the people on these campuses are biased in some way. Every single person.</p>
<p>“Imo, the parents are clearly racist, but they are within their rights to be racist.”</p>
<p>Yes they do have a right to be racist, but they do not have the right to insist upon room assignments by race. They do have the choice of refusing to pay the tuition and attempting to persuade their daughter to transfer to another school.</p>
<p>"Also, who are you all to dictate what the parents may or may not with for THEIR daughter. Yes, she is an adult, but not every culture possesses the lackadaisical parenting styles of the west. To brand them “narrow minded” because of their beliefs is a cop out and rude. "</p>
<p>Sorry, forgot we were living in communist china…There’s a difference in saying “oh this parent is narrow minded because she won’t let her daughter go far away” and “this parent is narrow minded because she won’t let her daughter room with another race.” The fact of the matter is, this family is living in the US, which is predominantly white. To say a person cannot room with a white person in the United States is not just a cultural belief, but rather a form of racism in that this parent simply denies adapting (or at least accepting) to whites out of ignorance and pompous feelings.</p>
<p>Sorry, forgot we were living in an age wherein the minorities of America have to adapt to the sick Western culture by force.
And if they don’t? Cries of “reverse racism” coupled with “■■■■ if you don’t like it.”</p>
<p>Also, way to assume it’s a racial issue. Maybe it’s culture? Like, the parents would not want the daughter to room with a black either. Maybe they don’t want their daughter contaminated. Again, their right.</p>
<p>“but they do not have the right to insist upon room assignments by race.”</p>
<p>This has not been established. They told their daughter not to room with a friend and their daughter told her friend whose mom told OP as per OP. None of this has anything more than a parent telling their daughter to do something.</p>
<p>I tell my kids not to spend too much time with some friends if I find that my kids are being influenced badly. Is it the collective wisdom of this forum that I should think twice if the friends happen to be white or hispanic or african american or Asian because it might be racism?</p>
<p>Sick western culture?</p>
<p>Ok so if someone doesn’t adapt to the so called sick western culture, where are they going to find a job? Make friends? Form relationships? You know, basically how are they going to live?</p>
<p>In the end it’s pretty simple. As ugly as racism is, there is a pretty simple rule to it, you can’t be racist against the dominant race.</p>
<p>Um, yes? Not everyone holds the West up as the perfect model of freedom and free thinking. Some find it demoralizing.</p>
<p>Nope. I don’t care if you don’t like my kids. But, trust me, if you are going to a university, rhymes with diversity, you had just better know the score.</p>
<p>Anyway, who cares if it is racist? Who cares if it is not?</p>
<p>It’s immaterial. If some parent didn’t want my kid to live with their kid? I’d be over that in about as long as it took for them to say it out loud.</p>
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<li> Any kid who would pick a roommate based on their parent’s preference is going to be boring.</li>
<li> Any kid whose parent thinks, at this age, that they get a say in this isn’t going to be the kind of kid my kids’ are going to be friends with, anyway. Not for long.</li>
<li> I have no fear at all of my kid being influenced badly by anyone else. They have their own minds. They know how to use them</li>
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<p>Racist or controlling? either way, get out of there fast. That’s the kind of parent who shows up in the room all the time and invades your personal space. Avoid.</p>
<p>ETA: students who say “sick western culture.” Also avoid. Like the plague.</p>
<p>Could be “Parents Forbid Child From Having American Roommate.”
I mean, even if the roommate were of the same race, the parents still might be uneasy if she and her parents were Americanized.</p>
<p>"That’s the kind of parent who shows up in the room all the time and invades your personal space. Avoid. "</p>
<p>There you go. OP’s friend’s daughter might just be much better off. :p</p>
<p>Get a single.</p>
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<p>Yes, in America. You may encounter the occaisonal Americanized roommate. :rolleyes:</p>
<p>I’d say anyone who got out of that situation dodged a bullet. Sounds like a nightmare living like that for a year. A.V.O.I.D.</p>
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<p>There you go. OP’s friend’s daughter IS much better off. No question.</p>
<p>Let’s hear texas again: Only in CC can people make a big issue about “racism” about something some parent told some other parent about what her daughter said about a friend on why she does not want to room with her.</p>
<p>When CCers start slinging accusations, we’re in the trouble spot again. There is no country or culture free of demoralizing aspects. Indicting a “whole” is tough. Whether they be Americans, Westerns, Pakistanis or tiger parents. Or any group. </p>
<p>Supposedly, the parents prefer a same culture roommate. That’s all we know- if we even really know that. Yes, the parents can say that. Yes, the dau can choose to follow that. No, we shouldn’t be slamming Eastern or Western cultures based ont that. It’s generalizing and our slip is showing.</p>
<p>How would I feel as a parent? Sorry for both kids. I’d encourage my dau to keep the friendship up, to the extent that it was working for both girls. I’d also suggest my dau be sensitive to how this sort of parental pressure affects her friend. That’s just me.</p>
<p>i think we are too tip toe around these issues. I’d encourage my daughter to find other friends and find new places to go and to have a good time. If the other kid came along for the ride, so be it. If not, so what?</p>
<p>Literally, so. what?</p>
<p>It’s a great big world out there. Lots of people in it. Go out and find them. Anyone or anything that makes your world smaller at the age of 19 or 20ish? Sheesh. Forget it. Not worth the worry or the bother.</p>
<p>Let’s hope its a simple preferance thing and not a Sharia Law, my daughter is my property thing.</p>
<p>This reminds me of the white woman who complained to Princeton that her daughter’s roommate was black. Claimed that in the culture her daughter grew up in, black-white relationships were tense, daughter would feel uncomfortable, etc etc. (Princeton basically ignored her, as apparently did the black roommate. Daughter eventually moved into a different room.) Fast forward a couple of decades and that would-be roommate that was so objectionable today is… the first lady of the United States. Mother and daughter, ruefully (to their credit) realize a huge opportunity - for growth, among other things - lost for ever.</p>